Some children do not get sick for a long time: a couple of days, and they are back on their feet, in the ranks. Others are on sick leave with comfort: first, the temperature for three or four days, then another week the throat hurts, then there are complications in the ears … In general, the treatment is delayed.
It is clear that everyone’s immunity is different. But there are children who catch viruses, let’s say, with pleasure. And psychologists see in such a love of disease not just poor health. It was we, the parents, who created for them such conditions under which it is good to be ill.
Well, imagine, all day you grumbled at the child. Now his homework is not done, then he is late for training. All kind of scattered, uncollected. Well, how is it possible! A shame!
And in the evening his temperature rises. And at this moment you feel ashamed: the child was probably already not very healthy, and you did not notice.
What does a loving parent begin to do at this moment? That’s right, to surround the child with care and affection. Go to bed, play non-stop cartoons, grab your tablet and relax. I will bring you your favorite goodies, and dad will buy you a new toy in the evening. Just get well, my joy.
The child’s brain receives a signal: aha, here it is – a legal opportunity to get all 33 pleasures at once and so that the mother does not swear at the same time. And in the future, the child subconsciously is in no hurry to recover – he wants to maximize the time when he is allowed to do whatever his heart desires. Such children can get sick immediately after a major quarrel with their parents, after troubles in kindergarten or school. This is especially true for elementary school students, but in psychology it is believed that in this way the body can “cheat” from the age of five.
So, if you have a frequently ill child of this age and older, think about it: maybe he just likes to get sick. And try to destroy his disease mindset. She should not be associated with pleasure.
– Do not change the daily routine due to illness. If you have a system of prohibitions and restrictions, it should remain that way. You can do very small indulgences, for example, two or three additional cartoons. But nothing more.
– Schoolchildren can already get sick “like an adult”: with bed rest and restrictions. If you are sick, you lie in bed and – at most – read a book, paint or put together a magnetic puzzle. Active games are prohibited.
– A sick child is not the center of the universe. Yes, it requires a little more attention and care, but the rest of the family does not fade into the background from this. You don’t need to load him with gifts if you don’t do this in ordinary life.
– Homework can be postponed for several dayswhile the child has an acute stage. But this does not mean that you can do nothing during the entire sick leave. Ask your teacher what you have learned in class and study every day as if the class had not been interrupted. This will preserve the child’s learning “tone” and deprive him of the confidence that illness is an additional vacation.
– Do not “buy” consent to be treated. “If you drink this bitter medicine, then you will be able to eat two candies” – it is not necessary. Few people are delighted with doctor’s prescriptions. But there is the word “must”.
– Find a goal for recovery. But there is no need to promise him all the blessings of the world. Better to do it the other way around. “It’s a pity that you are ill, which means that on Sunday we will not be able to go to the cinema / football / circus. And I was just about to take tickets … “” You still have a sore throat, so you still can’t get ice cream. But it will wait until you get well. ” But just do not gloat at the same time, they say, I told you that you will get sick, that’s how it happened. It is better to have pity on him, to miss the long-awaited entertainment – this is really very insulting.
PS Also – and this is general advice – try to give your child as much attention as possible in a healthy life. And try sometimes to give a break from circles, lessons and sections. Sometimes children get sick simply from overwork.