What the bedroom can tell you about you and your relationship

It is the bedroom that reflects our personality most vividly. After all, this is the most intimate place at home, where we relax, take off our social masks and can afford to be who we are. Therefore, it is so easy to compose a psychological portrait of the owner of the apartment from this room.

Total control

This bedroom looks perfect, like a picture in a fashion magazine. And not only before the arrival of guests – she is always like that. Not a wrinkle on the bedspread, not a speck on the mirrors, not a speck of dust on the bedside table. And even the curtains hang perfectly symmetrically. Neither subtract nor add – this is Miss Perfect’s bedroom.

What does it mean

Such an environment can indicate a powerful desire to control your life to the smallest detail, including relationships. Control – there is nothing wrong with it. After all, this is the creation of such an environment around you, in which you feel safe, protected from unpleasant surprises. But there is a problem: control can consume you completely. Lack of spontaneity deprives a person of many of the joys in life, and surprises are not always a bad thing. In addition, control in a relationship implies the desire to subjugate the other half. And she is unlikely to like it: everyone has their own will, desires, aspirations and plans.

Try to let something take its course, because you can not influence everything, it is not in our power. You will see how much energy is released.

Diffidence

There are more things in this bedroom than you need. It seems that they do not fit in it, every free patch is busy with something. Disorder is inevitable here: clothes are scattered, books and magazines are scattered about half-read, and a long-forgotten mug sits on the nightstand.

What does it mean

A cluttered bedroom is a sign of avoidant behavior. This means that there are things in your life that require immediate attention, but you keep putting off solving problems until later. And subconsciously you hope that it will somehow resolve itself. Clutter in the room draws attention to itself, takes center stage in thoughts. This is a kind of way to avoid problems in relationships, at work, in the family.

Plus, having a cluttered bedroom can be a way to protect yourself. The abundance of objects around works like a physical shield: so you feel safe, as if you have built tangible boundaries that no one can break.

Try to get rid of unnecessary things, clean up the clutter: slowly, in order to feel the emotional response this process evokes in you.

Dissatisfaction with personal life

If the bedroom has not only what is needed for sleep and relaxation, but also functional things such as a TV, laptop, books, a desk and even an exercise bike, then this is no longer quite a bedroom. After all, it should only be associated with sleep.

What does it mean

Distracted bedroom – the situation in it interferes with how to rest and sleep. Psychologists say that this approach to organizing space can speak of fear of relationships or dissatisfaction with the current situation in personal life. You just do not want to go to bed, subconsciously it causes fear or discomfort. In any case, this is a sign of avoiding some pressing problem. Therefore, in the bedroom you do whatever you want, but not what it is intended for: work, exercise, devote time to your hobbies, etc.

Try to get rid of the excess and see what thoughts it causes in you and how it affects your relationship. Maybe it turns out that a bedroom designed specifically for relaxation and sleep is what you miss most in your life?

Imbalance in relationships

Such a bedroom can be inharmonious in layout or design. Maybe there is a bedside table only on one side of the bed, maybe the bed is so that the passage on one side is wider than on the other. Or maybe it is generally furnished in such a way that it takes into account the needs of only one person. Alternatively, the space is simply not very comfortable and functionally organized.

What does it mean

Everything is simple here: whoever has more power in a relationship dictates his own rules. The dominant personality determines how the bed should stand and what should generally be in the bedroom. This, however, is not bad: whoever has more power has responsibility. So it only remains to accept the status quo.

On the other hand, if you are frankly uncomfortable, but you still cannot muster the strength to change the situation, this may mean your excessive loyalty. You are adjusting to existing circumstances simply because it’s scary to change something. Or maybe it seems that nothing will work out, it’s easier to be patient.

Try one day to change the space for yourself and be sure to see what kind of emotional response you have.

Difficulty making decisions

The bedroom looks like it’s missing something. For example, the renovation is incomplete, or there is no way you can buy a suitable bedspread, hang a picture or curtains, apply wallpaper, or finish painting the walls.

What does it mean

The person who owns the bedroom is very afraid to make decisions. It is difficult for him to make commitments, make choices, set a goal. “What if I don’t like this color? What if the new chest of drawers turns out to be uncomfortable? If I spend the money, it turns out that it’s in vain ”- this logic works in literally all spheres of life – both in work and in relationships. It is very difficult to decide, to try something new. Responsibility is very frightening. The one who does nothing is not mistaken – such a philosophy seems quite reasonable. Therefore, there is stagnation at work, unfinished projects accumulate, and relationships wither without development and fall apart.

Psychologists advise one day to pull yourself together: inhale and exhale – and take at least a step towards completing the renovation, deciding on the design and finally buying this unfortunate chest of drawers. You will see, it will immediately become easier to breathe.