What robs us of our emotions

Emotions influence what we think and how we behave. Our emotional overreactions change our perception of the world and ultimately our behavior and life. You need to be able to deal with them. Because not only anger, but also joy can capture so much that we lose our heads and stop controlling the situation. How exactly are we governed and what steals our emotions from us?

1. Anger can make you regret what you’ve done.

When we are in the grip of anger, we do things that we later regret. Learn to recognize the signals of rage before it has completely taken over. It is difficult to breathe, the pulse quickens, the face turns red … At this time, you can still regain control over yourself – you need to take a deep breath or leave the room. The main thing is not to cross the point of no return.

2. Nervousness and excitement take time and energy

Constant thoughts about a possible tragedy, illness, accidents that have not yet happened, but are about to happen … This is unproductive. You do not have time to rejoice that your fears have not been confirmed, because you find yourself new reasons for excitement. You worry about loved ones and think that this is an indicator of your concern for them. In fact, you complicate life for everyone around you, but first of all for yourself.

3. Frustration and disappointment take away self-confidence

Frustration from the fact that something did not work out for you turns into despair. Thoughts “I can’t do this”, “This is too hard for me” are the product of frustration and they are also its fuel. If you give them free rein, the matter will end with the fact that you generally stop making efforts and trying. And then leave it at all.

How to deal with frustration? If you take on a difficult task, give yourself breaks to rest – not only physically, but also psychologically. Take a break from the project, forget that it is important to you. The feeling of supervalue and then causes such despair at the slightest failure. And always keep in mind and “at hand” what restores your self-confidence.

4. Sadness and sadness make you run away from the world.

When we are sad, the first thing we want to do is run away from everyone. Even from friends and family with their sympathetic looks. But loneliness and seclusion have not yet helped anyone to dispel sadness. Fencing off those who sympathize with you and want to help, you exacerbate stress.

Choose a different path – be among people more often, even if you don’t feel like it yet. Go where you will see them, but will not be obliged to communicate closely: to the park, to the museum, for a walk. Very often, wandering among carefree couples and families with children, we experience relief and peace of mind that there are still happy people in the world.

5. Fear makes you step back

We are willing to give up a lot to avoid what scares us. We are right when we are wary of what causes fear. But there are other fears that do not protect us, but, on the contrary, put a bandwagon or force us to get bogged down in a quagmire of doubts. And these fears need to be recognized. They disguise themselves as caution, because they arise when we want to do something new: find a new job, discover new tasks. Then the fear of making a mistake wakes up, and it makes sense to fight it.

6. Guilt eats us whole.

Feelings of guilt can last for years. You can fight it, hide it from yourself, or, conversely, return to one episode from the past again and again. The solution is to refuse to keep the secrets that feed your guilt. Admit them to yourself, ask for forgiveness and become yourself.

7. Inspiration robs the ability to think clearly.

Not only negative, but also positive emotions can capture us so much that it leads to problems. When you are literally on fire with a new project, passionate about new relationships and prospects, you can overestimate the chances of success and underestimate the risks. So before you leave your job and start your own business without a clear plan, or commit life to someone you barely know, make an effort and don’t cross the fine line that separates inspiration and enthusiasm from euphoria.