The story of Marina Z. at the training in Sinton:
“In the evening, my husband and I agreed that in the morning I would go for milk for the child. Well, I woke up in time, got up, ran to the shower, and in the shower I realized that I absolutely needed to wash my hair.
Her self-irony here should have been heard. And see the face: admiring itself.
Well, of course, I washed it, after which it became clear: it was impossible to go outside with such wet hair. So I had to wake my husband up. And he, knowing that he couldn’t run anywhere in the morning, played on the computer until five in the morning, and when I began to disturb him and show my wet hair in front of his face,
Try to be in the place of your husband and see through a heavy dream: the face of your wife hanging over you, some text demanding you again and wet hair falling on you. Good morning?
explaining that for this reason he now needs to wake up and get up, he said that his eyes did not open and in general it was my turn. Here, of course, I was indignant from the bottom of my heart: “Well, how can you not think about a child like that!” Naturally, he had to wake up.»
At this point, Marisha was applauded by the whole group!
To explain to Marisha in her cheerful eyes that she is not quite right and even not at all right, there will be only a person completely devoid of a sense of humor: she is not a fool at all and, when she wants, she will make a psychological analysis of the situation at once, show and tell all the psychological games. But she is a woman, and, like a wise woman, she knows that the beauty of life lies in the fact that in life you can do not only the right thing, but also — as you want. Looking at her, I saw a little girl, a cheerful minx, who took genuine pleasure in running around the constantly slowing down boy (well, her husband) and getting something from him. What else to do with it?
However, any, even the most fun game, has not only its pluses, but also minuses. Here it is: of course, all this is awesome fun, but as a result, serious tensions arose in the family. Obviously, some games are only played because other, better games are not mastered enough. Mariska came for other games, and we supported her in this. Mariska put her thoughts in their places, looked inside herself and nodded her head: “Okay, I’ll try not to pester my husband in vain anymore.”
— How will you do it?
— I’ll write a paper. Memo: «What my husband is not obliged to do.»
Two weeks later, in her report, one could read: “I pulled out the items for the list from myself with red-hot tongs. But once I vomited and the list was on the wall, everything went very easily.”
I am pleased to present this document: a completely real paper that was hung on the wall under the interested, albeit very skeptical views of her husband.
- The husband is not obliged to take off at my first call.
- The husband is not obliged to carry out my instructions-orders containing the words “give”, “bring”, “do”.
- The husband is not obliged to fulfill my requests, and if he agrees to their fulfillment, he is free to do it when it is convenient for him.
- The husband is not obliged to fulfill all my requirements related to the upbringing of the child: he may have his own opinion on this matter.
- The husband is not obliged to do what I do (which seems necessary to me) in caring for the child, provided that this does not harm the health of the child.
- The husband is not obliged to satisfy me every time in sex.
- Excluding the time the child falls asleep, the husband is not required to turn off the computer when I want it.