In every century, men promise us stars from the sky, and we very much hope that this will be the case. How can we, girls, soberly assess that these are not just conversations under the influence of love hormones, that a man actually has these aspirations and strengths for everything that he says during the candy-bouquet period? I would like to draw your attention to the fact that, within the framework of this topic, we will not only analyze how to determine male potential, but also give tips for men on how to increase this potential in themselves. If men hear these tips of ours, start to fulfill them, then we girls will be happy, everything will be fine with us.
How can we see what kind of man is in front of us, can we trust him? Does a man really have the personal ability to achieve everything he says? To do this, we need to listen carefully to the speech of a person. In a speech, we need to note: does a man have such words as results, efficiency in his arsenal.
A man can tell: I did something, I went somewhere, I read something … But did the person tell us what result he wanted to get, when, in what time frame?
A man thought about the result or just did something … he was just in the process … and then how it goes … If he didn’t take responsibility for the result, it’s a sad bell for us girls. He took responsibility for the result, was aimed at it and achieved it — great news!
Then we listen, is there such a value as efficiency?
A person has it when a man analyzes his actions: how much energy he spent to achieve a result, whether it was possible to do better, by what indicators he measured. When talking, he says — about the time, by what date he planned.
There is a very cool question that shows what a man thinks about the effectiveness of the results — this is the question «how?». Does he often ask this question? Not just ready to do something, but always thinking — how to do it in the best way?
Does the man talk about experts in the type of activity he is engaged in?
Pay attention, girls to this, ask. Take an interest in what he reads, for what task, if there are experts important to him in the field he is engaged in, if he can name cool books on his topic.
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Is it ecologically sound to ask such a question directly: what results have you achieved?
— We do not ask a person how it is in an exam. We just talk about it ourselves, talk about our results or effective approaches to something and see how a person gets involved in this conversation, how interested he is, understandably.
By the way, you can bring a man home, introduce him to your dad, and tell dad to ask this directly)), and listen carefully to yourself.
What is also important in what we are discussing now is that our words that we use not only characterize us, but also educate, train us, our brain. If a person has decided to use the words result, efficiency in his speech, has decided to ask the question “How?”, to be interested in experts in some field, such a person will be different in a year. However, a man who has not accepted the goal of being interested in results and efficiency will not be re-educated by women. Girls here, don’t be fooled. But if he decided to change — to include new words — he will re-educate himself! And here we can help him! Listen to your men … and if you already love someone, but you haven’t heard the right words, then let them listen to our program, let them be infected with these words that educate us and program us for success.
Pay attention, girls, to one more very important thing.
When we ourselves do not have the built-in ability to focus on results, efficiency, translate problems into tasks, when we ourselves do not know how to compare today’s self with yesterday’s self and tomorrow’s self, then we are unlikely to be able to see this in man.
The truth of the relationship is — what I am, such a person will appear next to me.
So there is a list — how to diagnose a man, but you still can’t attract a person, because this entire list must be applied to yourself. If I am interested in results, efficiency, problem solving, achievements, self-development, I will discuss it, talk about it. And a person will appear next to me who is interested in the same thing, the same approach to life, or who is ready to become interested. If you want your daughter to be happy — insist that there are such words in her life, use them yourself, and let her bring her young man home to meet the resultant dad!
We analyze another marker-determinant of a person tuned to the result. A productive person makes decisions clearly, quickly.
And if you can not accept quickly, then how?
When a decision cannot be made immediately, a high performer makes a decision within a precisely specified time period — two weeks, a month, or some other, but precisely specified period. We, girls, if a man suddenly sags, we can help him by asking a question in time — when do you plan to do this, by what date do you make your decision? And for many men, this will be a great help, he will remember it! This will be a very effective help, especially if a woman knows how to choose the right intonation for such a question, find the right time, include the exact psychogeography (location of speakers in space and relative to each other) during such a conversation. And at this moment, exactly what they like to discuss in the women’s circle will happen — but how to inspire a man? The right question, the right intonation! If a man does not make a decision, he does nothing, a piece of his life is lost, he understands this, and you found certain intonations, sat down and said: how much time do you think you will leave yourself to think? How will you use these six months?
Continued and more complete version in the online program «Which Man’s Promises Can You Trust?»