Love is a perishable product, and if love is not specially taken care of, it quickly disappears on its own. The term is from a month to a year. However, let us clarify: in this case we are talking about ordinary love, which is usually not love at all, but only love or affection. True love has a different, more reliable nature, and over the years it only changes its shades, but does not disappear anywhere.
However, sometimes, and in fact quite often, we kill any love ourselves. How? What kills love? We will name only the most typical, most common moments.
Firstly, it is negative — at least to yourself, at least to another. Love is always a little charm, always a little embellishment of a loved one (or beloved), but if you have a habit of always being dissatisfied with something, if you are used to seeing something bad in everything, sooner or later it will start to kill your feelings. Not every contented person is a loving person, but a dissatisfied person cannot be a loving person.
When you are unhappy, criticism of others begins. And as soon as criticism begins, love leaves. Criticism, dissatisfaction with another, often disguised as a desire to improve it, is one of the most common reasons why love leaves a relationship.
Lecoq once wrote: “When a man buys a refrigerator, he understands why; and he remains satisfied with his refrigerator as long as it gives cold. Why, then, when he marries a charming blonde, then after a month he begins to complain that she does not understand politics? If you married for the charm and golden hair of your girlfriend, then let every morning for you begin with admiring her golden curls, and if suddenly this doesn’t charm you today, then tell yourself honestly — it’s not about your girlfriend, but about you …
If a partner demonstrates the same qualities and indicators as a purchase (sorry, acquaintance) — you cannot have any claims against him. If it spoils in the same proportion as you, relax …
Remember what you valued in a partner when you wanted to live with him, and continue to pay attention to these virtues in the first place.
Four Causes of Conflict Behavior:
- avoiding failure,
- To attract attention,
- Power struggle
- Revenge, revenge.
Video from Yana Shchastya: interview with professor of psychology N.I. Kozlov
Topics of conversation: What kind of woman do you need to be in order to successfully marry? How many times do men get married? Why are there so few normal men? Childfree. Parenting. What is love? A story that couldn’t be better. Paying for the opportunity to be close to a beautiful woman.