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Which internal translation is better to use.

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​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​ Depending on the mood, condition and attitude towards a person, his speech can be understood (translated) in different ways. The same phrase can be heard in different ways: either the person was joking now, or he wanted to hurt you, or he thought about it and said his thoughts out loud.

There is a special technique «Internal translator», which teaches you how to make a directed translation of the words of the interlocutor. And there are quite a few translation options:

  • Contextual. The ability to see the most plausible meaning of the words of the interlocutor.
  • Positive. It allows you to hear the best intentions behind the words of the interlocutor, to see a good attitude, to notice interest and gratitude.
  • Business or Constructive. With such a translation, everything personal and emotional is omitted, only that which is directed to the cause, to the solution of the problem remains.
  • Polite. The speech of the interlocutor is formulated as if he is an exceptionally polite person.
  • Psychotherapeutic. Allows you to notice mental pain, experienced emotions, personal attitude.
  • Negative. Search in the partner’s phrases of discontent, raids, accusations.

When we can interpret the speech of the interlocutor in different ways, then the question arises: “Which option should we stop at? Which of the possible meanings to answer?

As practice shows in everyday communication, Positive translation is best suited. A positive translation does not look for the truth, it looks for the very best that can be seen in a person. You seem to say to the interlocutor: “I see that you are good! You are such a wonderful person! ”, after which the interlocutor wants to correspond to this.

If you see responsibility in a person, and tellálive for him about it, admire this trait of his, then no matter how irresponsible he is, he will want to somehow be like the image you painted.

A positive translation is a kind of credit of trust to people, it directs others to be better than they are. And in this regard, positive translation is a powerful tool for transforming your environment.

Using a positive translation is a certain outlook on life, this is the position of an Angel. While a person is nearby, we help him become better, stronger. We do not swear at his mistakes, we do not take offense at his mistakes, we only care about him. Well, if the strength to love is not enough — people are sometimes very different — then we simply move away from such a person.

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