I think that you, psychologists, parents, teachers, have heard: every person is a priori capable by nature. That’s just why some really show their talent, while others their usual?
I will discuss this with the example of three children.
One child by nature, he was born so healthy and wonderful, received 8-10 Apgar points, and was discharged home from the maternity hospital.
Second child received a long list of diagnoses and sad forecasts in the very first hour of life, was sent from the maternity hospital to a special clinic.
Third child the same as the second and directed there. With only one difference. Mum.
His mother called someone 5 times a day and told a long epic about how unhappy she was, what a sick child, repeated all the diagnoses. She complained about this to her neighbors in the ward 3 times a day. As a rule, after each weighing of the baby. At breakfast, lunch and dinner — to random neighbors in the department — too.
How her story ended, I don’t know. I have always disliked pessimists.
The mother of the second child was the complete opposite. Yes, she called, answered calls, said that she was in the hospital with a child. But the curious did not talk about how unhappy she was, what diagnoses the child had. She talked about what a smart child, what progress she was making.
“Can you imagine, she is only 5 days old, and she is already holding a bottle herself!”
“Oh, yes, she herself began to sleep from evening to morning, and yet she is only a week old!”
“She knows where left and right are! I tell her to raise her right leg. She raises her right hand. I ask you to make your left hand up — raises your left. That’s ingenuity!»
The mother of the first baby noticed the success of her son. She did it not as zealously as the second. Maybe because the child is healthy and she did not need to note for herself the normality and development of the child. Maybe because I took a lot for granted. Maybe because achievements for her are more significant actions.
That’s just the results of the children have been strikingly different since the year. For example, at the age of 7 months, one of them could climb a ladder-beam independently, hang on a horizontal bar for 1 minute without support.
What kind of child do you think it was? Healthy and with a minimal note of achievements or a second one with many diagnoses and great importance for each achievement?
If you went through the exercise «Diary of success», then definitely answer correctly. The second child was ahead.
Yes, just remarking on the successes and achievements of a child is not enough to improve his health. Parents need to take action in this direction. However, without tracking the progress of the child, the result of his development is slower. Little to develop. It is important to see the resulting change. It is important to see confirmation, fix it somewhere. Voice the child. Teach him to enjoy what he gets. The child will not learn this on its own. His parents can help him with this.
If you notice the achievements of your child from birth, then your child is very successful. Knowing his strengths helps him in learning. If you started doing this a little later, then notice the result. He will definitely make you happy.
I, the mother of the second child, give you a guarantee!
Noticing the achievements of children is the minimum basis for their successful development. And this is true for every parent!
Apgar, Apgar Scale — a system for rapid assessment of the state of the newborn.
At the 27th Annual Congress of Anesthesiologists (1952), the American anesthesiologist Virginia Apgar for the first time officially presented her system for assessing the condition of a newborn in the first minutes of life. This is a simple method for the initial assessment of the child’s condition in order to determine the need for resuscitation procedures.
The scale involves a summary analysis of five criteria, each of which is evaluated as an integer in points from 0 to 2 inclusive. The evaluation result can be in the range from 0 to 10.
The Apgar score is one of three parameters, along with weight and height, that are reported to the parents of a newborn. (Wikipedia)