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When asked if we take care of ourselves, most of us will answer: “Of course.” But if we are asked how exactly, most likely, we will think about it.
Don’t confuse self-care with selfishness. The point is not that we think only about our needs, but that, only by taking care of ourselves, we will be able to give attention and energy to loved ones.
What is self care?
Self-care can be considered any activity through which we consciously invest energy, time, money in our mental, emotional and physical health. In theory, everything is simple, but in practice we often miss a lot. Proper self-care is essential to maintaining a good mood and reducing anxiety. It is also important so that we can properly build relationships with ourselves and others.
What is not considered self-care?
It is perhaps even more important to understand what is not self-care. If we have to force ourselves to do something and we do not get joy from it, this activity can no longer be considered self-care. According to clinical psychologist Agnes Wainman, “Self-care is what recharges us, it shouldn’t take energy away.”
Taking care of yourself is the key to balance in life
Where to begin? Here are three golden rules:
• Start with the simplest – sleep, relaxation, pleasant hobbies, going to the doctor. Over time, you will find a rhythm that suits you and understand in what form self-care is most suitable for you personally.
• Self-care is only something we plan on purpose, not something that happens on its own. It is always our conscious choice. If you are planning something, add it to your schedule, tell others about it to solidify your intention. Actively look for opportunities to invest energy in yourself.
• I often emphasize the importance of mindfulness when talking to clients. In other words, if you do not see something as taking care of yourself, then you will not get the corresponding effect. Be aware of what you are doing, why you are doing it, how you feel about it and what result you get in the end.
Only by taking care of ourselves, we will be able to give attention and energy to loved ones.
What can you do for yourself:
• Write down everything you don’t like or don’t want to do. For example: do not check email late at night and at night, do not go to events and parties that you do not like, do not answer calls during lunch and dinner.
• Eat a healthy and balanced diet.
• Get enough sleep. An adult needs 7-8 hours of sleep per day.
• Go in for sports or fitness. Many do not know this, but physical activity benefits our emotional health, not just physical. It increases serotonin levels, which in turn improves mood and energy. Keeping in mind the rules of self-care, choose the type of physical activity that you enjoy.
• Do not put off the necessary preventive examinations and visits to the doctor.
• Do relaxation exercises and/or meditate. You can do this at any time of the day.
• Spend enough time with loved ones.
• Do something every day to relax, whether it’s a short walk or 30 minutes of quiet time.
• Do something nice for yourself every day: go to the movies, cook your favorite meal, arrange a meeting with friends.
• Look for opportunities to laugh.
Make a self-care schedule for 15 days and compare how you feel before and after this period. And remember, as with everything else in life, taking good care of yourself comes with experience.
About the Author: Rafailla Michel, Consultant Psychologist.