Success is not fame, not money, not prizes and not power. Success is when you wake up in the morning and you want to get down to business so much that you literally fly out the door!
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N.I. Kozlov about success, main life values and Sinton in particular.
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This article is about success, or rather what success is usually confused with. There is really a lot of confusion here, and this leads many astray. So let’s quickly figure it out.
Success is sometimes confused with luck, but this is not true. Luck is the result of luck, a favorable combination of circumstances. Luck is not your merit, just like winning the lottery is not your merit. Success comes to those who earn it.
They often confuse a successful and a contented person, but these are also different things. A successful person, even if the goal is achieved, is not satisfied — for example, if he is a negativist and he does not have the habit or permission to rejoice. There are also people who know how to be satisfied regardless of whether they achieve any of their goals or not. Success is one thing, contentment and contentment is another.
Speaking about success, it is worth separating the personal perception of one’s own success and objective success: social success. Personal success is individual and everyone has their own. If a person wanted to wallow in the garbage heap and now he is lying there, he is successful in this sense. The girl wanted to poison herself, she was pumped out — she is freaking out because of her failure …. I told myself that I set a goal to lose weight and go on a diet, but then they brought delicious ice cream — I cancel my first goal, eat ice cream and think that I am quite successful … This is how I see it — so this is my truth. And what other people think about this is their personal problem.
How to treat it? This view is useful to those people who have serious disagreements with the expectations (including worthy ones) of those around them, who are experiencing discord and an internal crisis. Such views are part of the arsenal of soothing psychotherapy. In any case, a person’s vision of his own and others’ success can be very subjective. A person focused on some values may not consider successful a person who achieves goals related to other values (or his achievements are not in a priority direction). A person has a wonderful family, but business success is important to him, and he may not appreciate his success in his personal life. A person with a negative worldview devalues successes (when their own, when others), and a girl whose mood has deteriorated may consider herself a complete loser simply because she now wants to worry.
Objective success is more important in life. When they ask: «But is he — is he a successful person?» — they mean precisely this, to a sufficient extent, objective social success, recognized by the bulk of reasonable and respected people.
If you are great at blowing soap bubbles, but no one needs it, you will hardly be considered a successful person. Every society has its own values, and the one who achieves them is successful. Does not achieve — not successful. And then the bum is not a successful person, no matter what he thinks of himself, but Steve Jobs or V.V. Putin are successful people. Business people want to have objectively successful people as partners, and not those who only consider themselves to be such. Any girl with a head, before getting married, still looks at a man, evaluates his success, and if he does not have a home, does not know how to make money and does not look status, most likely he will not associate his life with him.
It is not obvious that a successful person is the one who has grandmothers for women, a summer house, a wheelbarrow and a daughter, but it is worth thinking about the opinion of worthy people around you in assessing your own or someone else’s success. Some things are worth simply accepting: for example, that it is better to be rich and healthy than poor and sick. And this is already very specific: the amount of health is reflected in an individual medical record, the amount of money is reflected in exact numbers … Success in your personal life is well reflected in your price in the marriage market, business success is your value in the business market, and the success of your development is easy to measure by growth level of your intellectual, emotional and cultural development. All this is quite objective things. A smart man, if he is a man, he must earn a lot. A smart woman, if she is a woman, should look for her chosen one among those who can earn a lot.
Look at the qualities of a successful person and start working on yourself.
However, human society is arranged so interestingly that social success, for all its seemingly objectivity, is still not entirely objective, but only relative. Social success or failure is always a relative concept.
Income of $ 5000 per month — is it joy or sorrow? In the States, this is not enough for happiness, in Russia it is considered quite a decent income. Most people habitually look at others: if quite wealthy people live like that, which I focus on, then I think that this is normal. If I see that the people I focus on get significantly more, then I consider myself poor. If I get more, I’m rich!
Those who are ahead of the rest in terms of basic vital signs are called successful in society. Those who are in the first third are successful. Who in the last quarter sucks and sucks. And the bulk — in the middle, in the status of «not very successful.»
It is curious: before, the one who was not hungry was successful. Because a lot of people were starving. But since about the middle of the 20th century, hunger has disappeared from the vast majority of countries in the world. And since then, the fact that you have not starved for the past 30-40-XNUMX years, and in any cafe you can eat cakes / hamburgers, drink coffee, is not considered a sign of success. Because everyone can do it. Today’s «not very successful» never go hungry, are always well dressed, live in their own apartments and drive their own cars. They live better than the kings and queens of two hundred years ago, but in the social «table of ranks» they do not reach the level of «very successful» …
The following questions: how to define your goals, find the best strategy and optimal plan, how to develop the qualities of a successful person? About this — in the relevant articles, and come to the trainings, where you can decide on these things.
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