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Psychology
La Vacuum sensation It is an emotional wound that appears when something is missing or does not make us feel good. Before certain decision making this feeling usually appears. And it is very normal, a part of our life has ended and changed and the important thing is to be able to place this void and give it meaning.
Metaphorically, the feeling of emptiness could be likened to the form of «black hole»Located in the chest or stomach. “It is a sensation similar to when we look into a well and we only see darkness without seeing the bottom,” says Lidia Asensi, a health psychologist at the Cepsim psychological center.
And this feeling carries with it a pain and a great feeling
of loneliness that involves a grieving process, and from this begin to create new projects and life goals. «The expression of feeling empty on a psychological level is related to the lack of “something”. The feeling of feeling incomplete appears and it tells us that there is something wrong, as if it were an internal alarm ”, explains Lidia Asensi.
But not only the sensation itself can become dangerous, our actions in relation to it can also become dangerous. The psychologist Lidia Asensi says that one of the greater dangers that we can find before this sensation resides in the attempt to combat this void: «In this attempt to« fill »this void there are people who they start to put behaviors in motion which can become harmful and harmful». Which are? From starting to exercise excessively, filling the agenda with plans, a lot of sexual relations, the search for other people to replace another (before a breakup), substance use or excessive food intake.
Why does this feeling appear
This feeling can appear through experiences and experiences of the past such as, for example, not receiving the necessary affection as a child, not feeling validated, seen or important, although there are many other reasons: «It can also appear before present experiences, such as the loss of an affective bond such as the death of a loved one or a couple breakdown. If a job is lost or there is some dissatisfaction in some areas of our life, it is also very common for us to have this feeling ”, says the psychologist.
It can appear before the changes that are happening in our life. We say goodbye to something to open a new path. Although it is something chosen and that we want, we can feel a certain emptiness in us until we assume and we process the change.
«An example of dissatisfaction could be staying in relationships and situations that we dislike and they cause us discomfort, due to the fact of moving away from feeling the sensation of emptiness. Who knows this feeling, his goal may be to get away from it. But not feeling this sensation, sometimes, can lead us to be in relationships in which we do not feel good. Therefore, again, the solution put in place becomes the problem. In addition, staying in relationships or situations that do not make us feel good can also generate this unpleasant feeling of emptiness “, explains Lidia Asensi.
How to “fill” that “void”
From the point of view of the Cepsim psychologist, it is not a question of “filling” the “void”, but rather of managing it: “At some point we have all felt this sensation of emptiness and it is essential to identify it, pay attention to it and take care of it in a healthy way for us.
Apparently, in the first place we must be aware of what we feel and why we feel this way since sometimes it is difficult to find the reason from ourselves, so we need help from a professional.
– Accept and understand the emptiness that we feel.
– It is important to express what worries or torments us.
– Foment self-care routines.
– Learn to tolerate unpleasant emotions.
– Create circles with people who understand us and support.
– Look for new goals and projects.
— Ask for help to our close circle and to a professional.