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Good afternoon, dear readers! Have you ever thought about why some people have an easy and joyful life, while others seem to attract all sorts of ridiculous moments into their lives, get into unpleasant life situations? A person’s value system plays a huge role in choosing a life path and following it correctly. This is a landmark for everyone, rules and ideas about normal life, work, study, leisure, communication. These characteristics play a key role in every action, intention, deed, as well as in the reaction to situations and even the words of people.
Thanks to this, each person knows exactly what is central to life and what is not so important. Consequently, the model of his behavior in different situations is also based on this.
What are the values?
Depending on the sphere to which the values belong, they can be divided into:
- cultural;
- universal;
- individual.
All values, except for individual ones, are formed on the basis of the opinions of others, as well as the characteristics of the area in which the person was born, traditions and trends in communication. But individual values include exclusively subjective features of the individual’s worldview. Let’s consider each type in detail.
Universal
The system of universal human values includes:
- Health. Probably, for every sane person it is an indisputable value of life, without which neither material nor spiritual benefits are absolutely necessary. Obviously, when something hurts, we need nothing more than to get rid of the ailment. We spend any amount of money, any amount of time and effort to restore the usual healthy state of our body.
- life success. Of course, it all starts with schooling. Each of us strives to study well at school in order to enroll in a prestigious higher educational institution in the future, and then to find a good job in our specialty. All this promises us good earnings and, as a result, a successful career. We feel fulfilled in life and enjoy it. Although today many, having achieved such results, cannot withstand social pressure and resort to the so-called downshifting — a return to a simple life, away from densely populated cities and towns and closer to nature.
- Family. For many, a career is of no value if there is no one to share this success with. Many feel the need to work and achieve results not for themselves, but in order to care for and provide for their families. After all, relatives and friends are those who are always waiting for you, understand, hear. The formation of a family for such people can begin already from the senior classes of the school or from the institute.
- Children — flowers of life. And many live by this principle. They see in them their reflection and continuation. We pass on our life experience and strength to them, often even to our own detriment. It is worth noting that although today there is propaganda for the rejection of offspring called «childfree», for many children have been and remain the main value of life.
As a result of the above, it is important to note that such a system has a desire for self-realization. Someone realizes himself in career growth, someone — in the family, someone — in children. All this pursues one goal — to consolidate its own significance and broadcast it into the future.
Cultural
Cultural values include:
- creativity and spirituality;
- close contact with relatives;
- friends;
- freedom of opinion;
- self-esteem and self-confidence;
- independence;
- respect for others;
- work that meets interests;
- courage and courage;
- responsibility;
- realization in creativity and work;
- travel, etc.
Individual
Individual life values include the most important things for each person. Their basis is formed in childhood due to the environment. For someone it will be truth, honor and justice, for someone it will be a lot of money and a good job, for someone it will be a healthy family and the happiness of people close to him.
All people have their own psychological type. That is why we think and behave differently in identical situations, strive for different goals.
Proper formation of life values
Life orientations and values begin to form in early childhood. The process and the result depend on the conditions in which the child is. The key role is played, of course, by the family, as well as close people and friends with whom the baby spends the most time.
No one knows how to determine what will be the main thing. It all depends on the individual’s own ideas. The child’s personal value system will be created and improved not only by his personal experience, but also by your prompts and example.
To properly form the life values of the baby, you need to try to do the following:
- to show by personal example what is important in life and what can be left to chance;
- surround the child with kindness and understanding;
- watch good films and read books with a moral sense, where greed and lies are punished, and honesty, generosity, truth are encouraged;
- help and give advice in choosing friends and people who should be equal, reinforcing the words by comparing the achievements of these individuals;
- listen to the child even if he is wrong, talk to him and give unobtrusive advice.
Values are formed over the years not only from your personal experience, but also from the opinions of people who are significant to you. It can be both parents and mentors, teachers, school friends, etc. These are the people you admire and respect immensely.
Indirectly, the process is influenced by religion, trends in society, cultural characteristics of the territory where a person lives, and many other factors. It is important to try to surround the child with good and kind people. The main thing, if possible, isolate him from negatively influencing personalities for as long as possible.
How to define your life values?
Own values are determined in 3 steps:
- Take a piece of paper and write down everything you think is important on it. It doesn’t matter how big or small the list gets.
- Review it in detail and analyze each item. Constantly ask yourself the question: is it really important or can you do without it? If there is even the slightest doubt, feel free to cross out this item.
- Repeat the steps from the previous paragraph, reducing the list to 7-10 points — these are your personal values.
It is worth noting that people who are distinguished by a cheerful character and optimism, in any situation, try to take into account the action of factors that affect their life values, cut off everything superfluous. This approach allows over time to form a truly powerful mechanism out of them, dictating the direction of movement in any, even the most confusing life situation.
A clear understanding of your values is important, as it allows you to deliberately and purposefully shape your character, control actions, desires and, of course, decisions.
We all have different settings. But, having looked deep into ourselves, having analyzed our actions and deeds, we can unmistakably determine what is most important for us, what is the guideline for each of our decisions. This will help you make only informed choices, make decisions on your own, think about and model the results, and only then act.
Recommendation
If you are not satisfied with the values that were instilled in you as a child, then this needs to be corrected. Based on my experience, I will say that it is not very easy. As already written above, values are instilled from childhood and deposited in our subconscious.
One of the very effective methods of changing attitudes is to work with the subconscious.
Conclusion
Also, if you are interested in the topic of human development, then I recommend looking at an article about human chakras and their disclosure.
All the best, friends! I hope you have learned something new and interesting for yourself that you can successfully apply in your life. Be honest with yourself. Always remember what is important, and do not get hung up on minor things. See you for another interesting conversation!