Exactly half of the women stand in front of the mirror every Saturday at half past seven and say to themselves: “No, today I will stay at home. I was going to sit with my friends and have some good wine. But the reflection in the mirror tells me I’m too fat to be seen in public.” Details from journalist Rebecca Reid.
“According to the results of the study (more on it below), which I recently received, canceling their plans for the evening, more than half of the women attribute it to a “fat day”.
Seriously. I’m not kidding, such a term exists. Researchers say that at the moment in all the bars of the country there is a man, nervously looking at his watch, who receives a text message with the text “I’m sorry, I’m not coming, I’m blown up.” Although personally I doubt about the wording. Most likely, it says “The nanny didn’t come, I’ll have to sit with the child” or “The boss called and gave an urgent task.” I personally somehow received the message “I dropped the keys to the apartment behind the closet, I can’t leave the house.”
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That study also says that exactly half of the women every Saturday at half past six in the evening stand in front of a mirror and say to themselves: “No, I will stay at home today. I was going to go to the new gastropub to hang out with some friends and have some good wine. But the reflection in the mirror tells me I’m too fat to be seen in public.”
Am I the only one who thinks this is the most absurd phrase in the world?
We all have days when there is “nothing to wear”, when self-confidence is at zero, and it’s impossible to line up our eyes evenly. Yes, it happens. And we all know that after this stage of denial comes anger. “I’m not going anywhere, and you won’t make me!” – oh, this cry was heard more than once by my mother, and my husband, and a couple of my girlfriends. Then comes the bargaining stage, during which I timidly try to persuade my friends to also stay at home and not go anywhere. Friends with metal in their voices usually answer me that I need to leave in 20 minutes and it’s better to start packing. And now, after I try on my entire wardrobe (including dresses that I bought at the age of 17 and have never worn since) and finally choose lipstick, I will put on what I found in the morning and … leave the house.
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But then I come to the party and I understand that everything is not so bad. Two glasses of prosecco and I’m already smiling and laughing sweetly at the jokes, and after two hours I can’t even remember why I wanted to stay at home.
Anyway, this is how I personally deal with a crisis of self-confidence. But the study says that most of us still wash off our makeup, put on old pajamas, and instead of having a great time with family and friends, watch TV shows on the couch and indulge in self-pity. It is obvious that women are engaged in self-flagellation for being unhappy because of their own appearance, by depriving themselves of the joys of life.
And it’s so sad that you can cry.
Fat is not a feeling. Feeling is emotion. And fat is just a tool to store excess calories. As you can see, these are completely different things. You can’t feel fat because it’s not a feeling. Of course, you can feel miserable because of the extra weight on your sides and stomach. And you can also feel happy and have fat on your sides and stomach. But feel fat? It’s impossible!
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Here are the words of those who conducted this study. Chris Johnston says, “Don’t even try to argue with a woman who says she has a ‘fat day’. If she has a so-called “fat day”, then no matter what you tell her, no matter how many sets of clothes she tries on, she will still feel bad. We were surprised by the number of women who decide to stay at home because they have “nothing to wear”. And this despite the fact that the average woman spends half her salary in December on holiday outfits. In men, you will never encounter such a problem. A shirt is a shirt.”
Thank you, Chris. A very insightful study.
There is a logical inconsistency with the term “fat day”. I don’t know who came up with this vile term, but from now on let’s unanimously recognize it as complete nonsense. This is a myth that gives trouble to women of all shapes and sizes. Let’s look at things soberly. You can not add and lose a couple of pounds in one day. Perpetuating the “fat bottom” myth only encourages women to be under constant stress and view their bodies in a negative way.
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In no way am I belittling the suffering of women who have experienced a “fat day”. I myself have had moments when I wanted to sob because of a terribly fitting dress or a disgusting hairstyle. But I forced myself to leave the house. And everything immediately became much better. Once, right before a dinner party, I burned half of my face. Yes, the preparation took several hours more than if I had a healthy face. But I couldn’t afford to miss out on all the fun just because I looked like the Phantom of the Opera without a mask.
We’ve been told all our lives that we don’t look right. We are too fat, too thin, too tan, too pale, too buff, or underbuff.
I don’t know a single woman who hasn’t shed tears because of her appearance. But when we take off our flashy dresses and crawl into bed instead of going to a party, we let the bullies win.
No one has the right to tell a woman how she can and how she should look. Our health and our appearance is our business. And no one else cares. So do not sit at home during the New Year holidays. Do not punish yourself for an extra portion of pancakes.
Get out your best dress, put it on and go have fun! Believe me, there are already people lined up in the world who are eager to tell you that you do not meet the standards of beauty. Let them stand. And you pass by.”
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