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What happens to your mind if you don’t reach orgasm
Couple
It can deteriorate the couple’s relationship, as well as promote low self-esteem
Sexual relations, sometimes, are based on bases that differ from reality. Therefore, they are not conceived without certain elements, just as they are not labeled as satisfactory if orgasm is not reached. But, many times, beyond pleasure, achieving this climax has a lot to do with how we feel internally, and a conflict forms if we are not capable of it.
It is important nor have an “orgasmocentric” perception of sexual intercourse, not even during masturbation, since that would imply minimizing the importance of everything that has happened previously. We must give orgasm the role that it deserves and not consider that a sexual relationship in which it does not occur is an incomplete sexual relationship. However, the fact of not reaching it and becoming obsessed with it has consequences on our mental health. A team of sexologists and psychologists from the ifeel app has compiled the main consequences of not reaching orgasm on mental health in six key points.
Low self-esteem
Whether or not sex becomes an assessment of whether or not orgasm was achieved, self-esteem can be hurt. Many women feel bad about their difficulty in achieving it and just that excessive awareness and control limits their enjoyment.
Previous anxiety
Obsessing over the achievement of an orgasm causes that during sexual intercourse we are only aware of that and not of everything else, in a frame of anticipatory anxietyIn other words, out of fear that what we want will not happen, which precisely contributes to our “short-circuiting” ourselves.
Frustration
Whether the focus is placed on achieving orgasm or not, the prolonged absence of orgasm ends up being experienced as a significant decrease in pleasure and as an inability to satisfy your own expectation and the sexual partner.
Inability to enjoy relationships
If you only act with your sights set on the orgasm I have to achieve, “then it will not act spontaneously and flexibility, and the rest of the sexual factors that also play a role in a sexual relationship will be overlooked.
Reproaches
Occasionally, it may happen that the focus is not on a our presumed incapacity to reach orgasm but in the capacities of the other person as a lover, laying the foundations for a future reproach if this situation is not channeled with adequate communication about what is happening in the relationship.
Distortion of the reality of sexuality
Obtaining pleasure is one of the pillars of sex, but reducing this obtaining to orgasm is just as inappropriate as reduce sex goals to obtaining pleasure, losing sight of communication, bonding, sensuality …