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Feature films, imbued with romanticism, strengthen relationships in couples, but do not always show us the truth. The porn industry is also not very truthful, and sometimes dangerous. What’s the catch, says sexologist Natalya Fomicheva.
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The most common deceptions of erotic scenes in the art film industry: sexual intercourse lasts all night, and the heroine wakes up in the morning with styling and makeup (one must think that she smells of roses). And quarrels end in violent sex.
Even knowing that cinema does not always correspond to reality, we willy-nilly ask ourselves the question: “Well, why is it not so in our relationship?” But when we watch science fiction, we don’t have the idea that we can jump on skyscrapers!
It is also worth including skepticism when viewing pornography. Not all screen tricks can be repeated, for example, some poses. In addition, what happens in adult films is a very intense stimulus, and for those who often masturbate to porn, the level of arousal that comes from sexual contact with a real partner is not enough. And this prevents you from creating relationships and leads to loneliness.
Porn legalizes our erotic fantasies and helps to get rid of the complex “I fantasize, so something is wrong with me”
But if abuse is avoided, pornography adds variety to the sex life. This is confirmed by statistics: two hours of porn per week increases the sexual desire of partners, according to independent analytics company Liberos.1.
Porn legalizes our erotic fantasies (we see that others have them too) and helps to get rid of the “I fantasize, so something is wrong with me” complex. Movies for adults show that there are a lot of variations, as it can be, which means that someone not only thought about it, but also filmed a whole series. Also, with their help, you can understand what in sex excites you especially.
The average age of children’s exposure to the products of the porn industry is 11 years old.2. But if a teenager draws all his information about sexual life from pornography, he may develop unrealistic expectations about what intercourse really looks like – for example, that women are instantly aroused and always have an orgasm. And then disappointments and experiences are inevitable.
But if a teenager looks at everything that happens on the screen, being more adult and aware, realizing the share of fiction, it will be more useful for sexual development than harmful – it will help him form the boundaries of sexual acceptability, understand what is acceptable for him and what is not.
Movies about passion and love
In our selection of 5 films that reveal the theme of sexuality in different ways – its awareness and manifestation.
Eroticism without sex
“The rest of the day”.Directed by James Ivory, Cast: Anthony Hopkins, Emma Thompson. 1993
A touching story about the sudden love of an English butler who devoted his whole life to serving and fulfilling his duty. Now, at the end of his days, he realizes that he has found true love, worthy of worship.
Passion without limits
“Last Tango in Paris”Directed by Bernardo Bertolucci, Cast: Marlon Brando, Maria Schneider. 1972
A cult erotic film about the passionate love of an American who recently lost his wife and a young eccentric French woman. The sexual connection of lovers who do not even know each other’s names gradually brings them to lunacy.
Sexuality as inspiration
“Muse”.Directed by Albert Brooks, Cast: Sharon Stone, Andie MacDowell. 1999
An American comedy about the search for a muse in the modern world and at the same time a satire on Hollywood cinema. According to the plot, a screenwriter who has lost inspiration seeks the services of a muse, who, in gratitude, demands more and more money and gifts.
Sex as pleasure
“No hysterics!”Directed by Tanya Wexler, Cast: Maggie Gyllenhaal, Hugh Dancy. 2011.
A historical drama about the invention of… the vibrator. An English medical college graduate takes a job as an assistant to a doctor who is famous for treating female “hysteria” with intimate massage. He decides to improve the “manual technique” and comes up with an electric vibratory massager, which becomes insanely popular.
Teaching in theory
“Money match”.Directed by Arthur Allan Seidelman, Cast: Linda Hamilton, Jacqueline Bisset. year 2000.
American comedy drama about a journalist who is going through a difficult breakup with her beloved husband. She decides to interview a successful French woman who runs a highly paid call girl service. Their communication, as well as the enchanting atmosphere of Paris, help the main character reopen her heart to love.
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About expert
Natalia Fomicheva – psychologist, sexologist, author of the book about sex “Proximity”. Her page at .
1 More details at: ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
2 Read more at: culturereframed.org