“We will make our children happy if we are happy in their presence,” said existential psychotherapist Svetlana Krivtsova in an interview. Continuation: video and commentary by the author.
Children are different, not like us adults. Of course, they do not know life, do not know how to reason and do not have the will. This is not about this, but about a fundamentally different way of knowing the world, understanding it and being in it. A child of preschool age lives in harmony with himself and the world and masters it freely (because the game is a form of freedom!), Getting great pleasure from the simplest things.
Watching a child absorbed in the game, we learn his ability to enjoy life, but we also join the greatest wisdom: in order to live this quarter of an hour or this day as much as possible, you don’t need anything special, everything is already there in order to celebrate life and be it. grateful, no matter how difficult it may be. This, by the way, calls into question our adult ideas about what we make a career for, we get so tired, we deny ourselves a lot …
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A preschool child needs a sensitive and full of life parent who follows the child, unconditionally trusting his feelings, accepting his pace of development. An adult should give the child protection, sufficient space for activity and support in the form of rituals (repetitive actions): without them there is no peace and development. A small child does not need any lectures or reasoning about inappropriate behavior for the development of his personality. This can save you energy…
Essentially, preschool children need three abilities from an adult:
- Be attentive to the manifestations of the child’s “I”. Patiently ask and listen with all seriousness and personal involvement, understanding that there are no small topics or insignificant events.
- Be fair in your assessments. Do not over-praise, but also do not allow yourself to underestimate, make fair judgments, but also give examples of mercy.
- Respect the child as an unconditional value. Even if it drives us crazy. His bad behavior is just a way of asking us, “Do you think I’m valuable? Even after that?”