What does it take for a husband to appreciate you, or at least clean up after himself?

How to achieve these very important body movements for you? The question is serious. It’s not even a matter of scattered socks (or, write in what is important to you), but disrespect, neglect — this is how the lack of his reaction to voiced requests is perceived.

Come on, let’s try to imagine that you are the Queen. This is a very favorable state. Moreover, any woman is worthy of a royal attitude! You just need to learn how to receive it. Reproduce this state and be filled with it. And immediately make adjustments to your behavior:

• The Queen does not throw tantrums. Well, such behavior of her royal majesty is not worthy.
• The Queen has sufficient and necessary influence over a man. He, as a worthy family man and honored with closeness to her Royal Lodge, is very glad to fulfill her requests. I would even say happy to do it.

Let’s try to start becoming a new you with the successful observance of these two points. And here it is important to remember your feminine attractiveness and what, in fact, distinguishes a woman from a man: it is necessary to use your softness, femininity, attractiveness (all that with which you seduced him). Plus, be sure to show love for him (the feeling that a woman loves you can push a man to great things!).

At the same time, firmness is also needed. But not in hysterics and demands “to fulfill my command this minute”, but in patient waiting. He, inspired by your attractiveness and delighted with a good attitude (after previous tantrums), will happily come for affection. Kindness must be given. But no more. And it is very important not to succumb to these good pleasant emotions and not to give up the last positions. After all, he has not yet completed the most important thing!

So, the principles and paths that you have to understand and go through:

1. The request that you voice to a man is fair, and has the right to exist (before global changes, make sure of this yourself). If only because it is very important to you. And that means for your relationship. In addition, his actions, if you look at the situation objectively, need to be adjusted. To be sure of your further perseverance, it is enough that you know this. But in fact, he knows it too. This understanding is the basis for complete confidence in one’s actions.

2. In no case, no ultimatums, wars, pripiraniya and other pills! By declaring war, you make a challenge to the most important and vulnerable male self. In this case, the man is forced to accept the challenge (he’s not a rag!) And win back his manhood to the last!

Refer to the first point. Your rightness is the basis for peace of mind. You need to be more confident in yourself and not win the opportunity to be right. Because you are so fair, and everyone knows it. (our husbands know). Here the form of presentation of one’s rightness matters. We didn’t marry henpecked men, did we? And it is difficult to convey their wrong to nepepecked people — the main thing is offended by dignity. The form of the report is the basis of success.

Therefore, there is no need for tantrums — the objects immediately get into a pose. If something is won, it must be protected. And even more so such an important thing as your own rightness! So, we don’t win back (we give orders in a quiet, calm voice ..).

You voice the subject calmly, gently confidently. And then you say literally like this: “I want you to think and make the right decision. I will move away a little so as not to disturb you, and thus, I will give an opportunity for calm reflection. ”

3. What does the phrase “I will withdraw a little so as not to disturb you, but to give you an opportunity for calm reflection” mean? In other words, what is the subtext to be understood?

So that he thinks well, I will step aside, I will not interfere (read: boycott you!). But of course I don’t have any complaints against you. Your wife is kind, smiling, not angry, etc. You can hear in your thought: A woman is waiting for a man to understand that he is wrong, admit it and begin to correct himself.

All. The royal command has been issued. Now you have the hardest part: royal patience.

Now you have to let your man do the feat. By the way, for feats it is necessary to educate (read: train) — judging by the named problem, he does not know how to perform them. You will also have to remake yourself — to become the Queen, this is not for you to wave with a rag!

Of course, this approach looks like something of a manipulation. But, firstly, let’s not forget that you, my dear, oh, how you will have to change yourself!) And the emphasis in behavior is on you (and not at all on the expectation of its changes, as you thought). So… if this is manipulation, then personally by yourself.

Your real goal is to stop worrying about the lack of warmth of a man, and cleaning his socks is just an indicator of successfully overcoming another problem.

4. Key point: implementation of the model of royal behavior. What are you supposed to be when you’re away?

Take note!

Contrary to the old patterns of behavior, the famous heroine is now: cheerful, calm, confident, firm in decisions and soft in relationships, attractive, sexy, but not achievable. A man should want it, but not get it.

No ostentatious desires to attract attention: «Look, I’m leaving, you hear, I’m leaving !!!» (read, pay attention to me!!!). You, however, are very passionate about your life, and not your joint. At the same time, she is slightly suspended until he does a chivalrous act — he does not remove his socks.

Your condition is very important. There is no anger, tension, waiting, and other negative emotions. There is: calmness, harmony, pleasure, pleasure. You just live. In the designated period of time, you are natural. But with one exception, you show absolutely no initiative in relationships. Now a man gets the opportunity to finally be a knight. And for this he needs to mature

In no case should you be in a state of joyful anticipation: “He will finally dance with me!” or “I will teach him how to treat me”, etc.

Go rejoice. Stormy joy is also an extreme. Your main state now is not joy. For you, such a situation should be like a long-established routine!!!! The surest state inside is peace, harmony, bliss (bliss from yourself, and not the joy of imagining what a knight your husband can be). Your husband is not yet a knight. He has to study.

5. How long to endure? As much as needs. You shouldn’t even count that pause at all. You are good to live. You smile, even affectionate with him, BUT! He feels like you don’t belong to him!!!! You devote more time to yourself, children, etc. And to him — only when he really asks. Yes, and it’s better not to have sex. It acts as a special, reinforcing motivator.

6. The man became angry, aggressive — what to do? Let’s look at this previously unfamiliar item in more detail … And do nothing. And, most importantly, do not take seriously his aggression. In fact, if he is angry, consider it your victory (you used to be angry!). But, not final yet. And only when he gets angry, gets overwhelmed, suffers (he must mature the desire to get out, well, at least start …), only then will the first knightly steps begin, which you need to encourage.

In the meantime, your task is to respond to his bad mood with your good ones. Break his stereotypes completely!

He: (sarcastically) well, where is your love?!

You: (gently, like a cat) — here she is, dear (hug him and kiss him — you are soft).

He: give the woman here!

You: no, honey, I’m not in a good mood …

His attention, desire, and good mood should not be so important to you. This is where firmness comes in – in the decision. Socks are not removed — there is no woman. Socks removed — there is a woman. Training is a serious thing that requires firmness. Completed the task — promotion. Didn’t work — we’re moving on.

Be sure and always show love to your man. Give him warmth and affection even when he has not removed his socks (just don’t give yourself completely). He must constantly be in an atmosphere of love and acceptance — this is the only way to arouse in a loved one the desire to change for you.

And in no case should there be any negative emotions! You are love, kindness, warmth, affection, attractiveness, in general, solid charms. After all, it is for charms that he will try, and certainly not for an angry wife — a saw!

You broadcast your request, and now you need to arouse in him a desire for you to try. How to do it?

7. Motivate him to change … yourself.

You are the translator of the request. You are also the main motivation for its implementation. What needs to be done to motivate a man to change? Improve! Become even more attractive, more desirable, more beautiful, more interesting, more independent, etc. You must be the woman of his dreams — the perfect wife and nothing less! Only for such a passion, he is ready to try.

Think it’s hard for him. A person is used to the fact that all his life his socks (garage, desktop, corridor — insert it yourself) are silently cleaned by his mother after him. A man does not know how to live differently. And then you start to re-educate him. The promised candy must be very sweet, so that he takes and changes himself!

So make yourself a candy!

An object should loom in front of him, for the sake of which he will agree to everything. It is your task to become such an object. Consider that this situation is a course to improve the «qualification of the best wife.» Aroused in her husband a desire to satisfy your requests — five! Did not call — repeat and study the material further.

8. And the final stage: the search for compromises.

You don’t look for them anymore.

Stop rowing the same boat of relationships, and then resent your husband for not taking the initiative. Now let him finally show how dear your relationship is to him. Wait a moment. And your task, finally, will be to condescendingly consider a compromise when he himself offers it to you. Then, of course, you will forgive the offender and … allow you to take care of yourself, for example, take you to a restaurant and buy flowers …