“I loved my wife’s breasts…”
And I still love them! The more her belly grew, the more concrete the baby became, and the more I felt like a daddy. The breasts are what change first! At the second baby, we know that she is pregnant just by looking at her breasts. It is very particular, and for man, it is paradoxical. Her growing chest is very attractive. But I also felt that it would soon no longer be about sexuality, but motherhood. When my wife breastfeeds the baby, her breasts will also come back to the baby when breastfeeding. “
Maxime, dad of 2 children.
“I wanted to protect her at all costs. “
As soon as my wife took on the stomach, I became aware of the baby’s presence, I only saw her as the one who was carrying my child… Even if her body remained familiar to me, I found it difficult to understand it. wanting or even looking at it without thinking about the baby. I wanted to protect her at all costs. I was very caring, I was so afraid that something might happen to her or to the baby! As for her breasts, I was disturbed to see them so big, she who had a small breast before her pregnancy! All these changes have really messed me up. “
Gregory, daddy of a little boy.
“Fat, distorted, almost indecent! “
I had a difficult childhood. When I went to my father’s house, my mother-in-law punished me by locking me in the closet in the hall. That’s why, I think, I didn’t want a child. So when my wife got pregnant, I quickly panicked. The more it took forms that announced the arrival of our baby, the more I was uncomfortable. She who was so beautiful before … The more her belly was visible, the more I found her fat, deformed, almost indecent. Fortunately, everything is back to normal after the birth. ”
Paul, father of a little girl.
The expert’s opinion
« Pregnancy is a confusing time for men. “
“These testimonials clearly show the phenomena that occur most frequently in men during pregnancy. For the most part, the woman becomes hyper desirable, since she takes shapes, and in particular at the level of the breasts, which makes her hyper feminine. Others see their partner more as a uterus in the process of “brooding” their child. This is what is called in psychoanalysis the “sacred vessel”: the woman becomes untouchable, because she sends the man back to his own mother. He no longer sees her as desirable, he just wants to take care of her. But that doesn’t mean he doesn’t love her anymore, it’s just that she sends him too much back to motherhood. When it comes to breasts, men sometimes tend to forget that originally they have both a sexual function and a nurturing function, so they may have trouble sharing them: before, these breasts did not. were “theirs”. It’s a confusing time, they can feel left out. Motherhood causes a lot of things, both physically, psychically and sexually. It is imperative that the couple talk about it together to go through these changes. ”
Caroline Le Roux-Poirier, clinical psychologist and sexologist at the Clinique de l’Yvette, in Longjumeau (91)