Contents
- 1. She asks for the (almost) impossible
- 2. She only loves one man
- 3. First she falls in love with the mind and social status of a man
- 4. She wants to negotiate before making love.
- 5. She seeks to stimulate all erogenous zones
- 6. She responds with pleasure for pleasure.
- 7. She hates being treated like an object.
- 8. She is very sensitive to attention after making love.
- 9. Flirting with other men means nothing serious.
- 10. After breaking up with a man, she can choose loneliness.
Men think that they perfectly know their companions, understand their desires and know how to anticipate them … But a woman is still for most of them – “terra incognita”. Family psychotherapist Boris Shapiro recalls several features of the female psyche.
1. She asks for the (almost) impossible
The ideal man – in the eyes of a modern woman – should show two qualities that at first glance are contradictory. He should turn into a hero with fairly broad shoulders, always ready to protect her, and at the same time be sensitive and attentive to her and not hide his weaknesses in close relationships. In a word, a woman wants to see her partner as a universal person: powerful (physically) and receptive (mentally).
2. She only loves one man
For a woman, as a rule, each romantic story stands separately. She fully lives it with the man she loves, not comparing with previous experiences. A man, on the other hand, can much more easily live the same type of relationship and allow the same behavior with many partners. To such an extent that sometimes he confuses their names …
If you do not delve into her childhood relationship with her father (they strongly influence the craving for men of a certain type), a powerful magnet for many women is the social status, intelligence of a man and his skill in wooing. Therefore, it is pointless to more or less deftly mask the outlined belly during the first meeting – she will not notice it. But for sure, he will pay attention to the man’s hands and listen to his voice, which knows how to caress no worse than hands.
4. She wants to negotiate before making love.
A man expects from her the words “You are always in great shape,” and a woman from him – “Honey, I love you.” Interpretation: she needs confirmation of your love every time so that she feels desire and can enter into a sexual relationship, while a man, on the contrary, needs sex to open up to feelings. By the way, for many women it is much more important to be loved than to love.
5. She seeks to stimulate all erogenous zones
For real pleasure, a woman needs a man in bed to show interest in her whole body. How many “experienced husbands” remember a heartfelt kiss on the lips or gentle caresses before having sex? For the same reason, women are more demanding on the arrangement of love contact – the beauty of the setting, lighting and smells.
6. She responds with pleasure for pleasure.
She appreciates caresses, touches, skin-to-skin contacts so much that sometimes she prefers them to penetration (penetration). Men, on the other hand, strive for the exact opposite, otherwise they do not consider the relationship completed.
7. She hates being treated like an object.
Some women, like many men, practice “love-sport” and date one or the other – because the frequent change of partners is in fashion or simply because they like it. But even they are looking for justification for their choices and are waiting for important words for themselves. Most women need proof that their husband (partner) belongs to them. For this reason, they often increase control and may be jealous of men for work, friends, mom, or even hobbies.
8. She is very sensitive to attention after making love.
The embrace of a satisfied man is the best gift for a woman. When, after making love, despite the drowsiness that overcomes him, he is able to mutter gentle words, praise her for her sensuality and grace, she experiences deep excitement and even delight. Such signs of attention strengthen her affection.
9. Flirting with other men means nothing serious.
Usually, behind her flirtatiousness and flirting with strangers, there is no intention to change. This may be an unconscious test of female attractiveness, as well as provoking a partner to jealousy (since she believes in the myth “jealous means she loves”) and a “message” to him about her value and demand in the “market” of men. In a word, coquetry is by no means a synonym for the windiness of a partner.
10. After breaking up with a man, she can choose loneliness.
In principle, women are more family-oriented and permanent partnership-oriented than men. It is more common for them to have an “alternate airfield”. At the same time, another trend is also noticeable: the time has come for singles who are able to establish a life without a permanent partner. The notion that an unmarried woman is a loser is a thing of the past. And the percentage of young people aimed at civil marriage and childlessness is growing. So a woman, dissatisfied with the relationship, may well break them off and prefer “free swimming”.