Hello, dear readers of the site! Today we will talk about what constitutes an unstable personality type. We learn its strengths and weaknesses, as well as how it can be identified.
Characteristics of character
Unstable personalities do not like to make choices and be responsible for them. They say about such people that they go with the flow. Therefore, they usually «nail» to the shores, which do not bode well. Getting into bad company, where idleness and self-indulgence is only welcome.
If you control their activities, they will do the work in good faith, but it’s only worth being distracted for a while, as they immediately sabotage the whole process and give themselves to rest to the fullest, not at all sparing the efforts previously spent.
It’s all about the weakness of the will, this psychotype is not able to adhere to the regime and deny himself pleasures.
Emotionally also unstable, able to commit rash acts, focusing only on impulses. The complete lack of rationality often leads to sad consequences.
Building a strong healthy family or reaching career heights is not so easy if you constantly indulge your momentary desires and impulses.
They do not like sports and everything that implies painstaking work, stability and sustainability. Attention is attracted only by what promises to give a storm of emotions.
That is why they are mainly fond of racing. For the sake of getting adrenaline, they can even risk their lives by performing some dangerous stunts without having worked out the driving technique in advance.
They strive for a free life, devoid of problems and various troubles.
Resources and limitations
They do not appreciate the care and love of their loved ones, relatives. Parents, family partners, friends are perceived only as a means of obtaining something that they do not want to organize on their own.
For example, the psychology of such men is such that they tend to take their wives for service personnel. That is, they demand to fulfill their duties, giving nothing in return.
Why they do not help with household chores at all, considering cooking and cleaning not a man’s job. Even if they are unemployed, while the spouse is also officially working somewhere.
Unstable people are not the best friends, they will exchange a faithful and close person for the company of those with whom they can have fun. This happens because they do not need a relationship, but at the same time they categorically do not accept loneliness.
They do not know how to empathize and care for others. The reasons are simple — they simply do not experience feelings of pity, guilt, they try their best to avoid sadness and pain. That is why they live one day without thinking about the future.
For example, if they have a large amount of money in their hands, they will immediately squander it on entertainment. And even the thought will not come of using it rationally or postponing it for some extremely necessary needs.
Despite the fact that the main signs of an unstable type are rather negative, there are also positive aspects in their character.
They can be useful for people who do not know how to have fun and relax. That is, those who are overly responsible and serious. Indeed, sometimes it is really necessary to rest, listen to your desires, realize them without feeling guilty for allowing yourself a little joy.
Detstvo
Children with unstable character accentuation according to Lichko differ from the rest in restlessness. They are not obedient and uncontrollable at times.
They can be punished countless times. To explain why it is forbidden to do something, even to the point of hoarseness, will still not take requests and decrees into account.
The will is poorly developed, respectively, they are not able to force themselves to study, work and help their parents with household chores.
They want to have fun all the time, have fun and just relax. They are easy to manage, as they are quite cowardly. Therefore, it is worth at least a little to scare such a child — and he will be ready for a lot, just to avoid something nightmarish.
By the way, because of cowardice and anxiety, children with an unstable type of character are prone to phobic disorders and panic attacks. They often have stuttering, enuresis, neurosis, and so on.
They look for every opportunity, just not to study. At an older age, they skip school. And in the first grades, they can pretend that they feel bad, they lie that they have already done all the tasks.
Usually they are characterized as children with deviant and even delinquent behavior.
That is, they are inclined to commit acts that are hooligan, and even illegal.
They try cigarettes, alcohol, drugs early. And not because they like the taste, the state of intoxication. They just want new sensations, impressions. Otherwise, life seems gray and dull, and this is what they are most afraid of.
They run away from lessons and walk around the city, looking for people like them to have a good time. Sexual experience is also obtained early, among the first among peers. Often they are familiar with various perversions.
There can be no talk of fidelity in later life. They do not see anything reprehensible in betrayal, because they are completely unable to resist the temptations.
By the way, the desire of parents to control their every step only provokes them to run away from home. So in raising children with an unstable type of character accentuations, one should learn to maintain a balance between hyper-custody and complete permissiveness.
Although, if a person is already mature, excessive control, on the contrary, helps him lead a normal social life without addictions and other manifestations of deviance. Provided that he will be under guardianship literally every second.
Completion
And that’s all for today, dear readers! We suggest that you familiarize yourself with each existing type of character accentuations. To have complete information about what kind of people there are. Then it will become easier to build relationships with them and understand the motives of their actions. Accept them as they are without asking for the impossible.
You can start, for example, with a cycloid psychotype.
Take care of yourself and be happy!
The material was prepared by a psychologist, Gestalt therapist, Zhuravina Alina