Money is not to blame for being raised to dizzying heights and given them an unattainable status. How do we feel about money and how does it deserve to be treated?
At some point in my life, I somewhat demonized money, shunned it, and even despised it. There was, of course, some bias in this. In general, though, I was fine with them. Psychologists, by the way, suggest that the craving for money (as well as for power) replaces the missing happiness in love. But this is so — by the way.
We were taught that money performs a number of functions, so we treated them functionally: a means of payment, a measure of value, a means of accumulation. And after the collapse of the USSR, money became a form of «freedom» and «means of transportation.» Opinion — the more money, the more independence — became dominant.
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In families, the attitude to money is different, and it is brought up from childhood. In some, children are kept on a starvation diet, believing that this is the only way to instill respect for money, because money is, first of all, the equivalent of the labor invested. In others, children are pampered, in others they are forced to earn money, regardless of how rich the parents are, in the fourth, they build contractual economic relations with children, lending, on credit, paying bonuses, and the like. For example, I know a family where a boy is paid for reading a book.
For a while, it was a problem for me to “borrow” from my parents. Children can still do it — with dedication. As for my parents, they taught me that they don’t borrow from them (well, at least for little things, but I never had to do anything big), but simply take it when they need it and when they have it. Maybe I’m wrong, but I’m used to it.
After all, money is just a tool, albeit a very important one, practically necessary for life in a civilized society. And one must be able to dispose of a tool, it, like any other, can bring both benefit and harm — how to handle it, what to use it for. In my opinion, the most accurate attitude to money is the attitude of the cashier — dispassionate. That is, arithmetic: so much is needed, so much is desirable, so much is not enough. Everything is not bought for money, although they are credited with miraculous power. Money is not a form of self-affirmation, as many people think, not a universal symbol of success (“smart — show the money”). But money is also not a diabolical invention that must be run from or must be fought against. Money is just another mistake in communication. But if they are canceled, I am sure, terrible equivalents will appear: a person can come up with something else. So money is better. Do you agree?
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