What blocks our sexual energy and how to release it

Shame and guilt are the most common reasons why sexual energy is blocked. But where do they come from?

We always feel a sense of shame in front of someone, and most often the figure of this person immediately pops up in our memory. You may have come across situations in your family or with teachers where you were reproached for certain acts of a sexual nature.

For example, the child studied himself in childhood, and it saw her mother and his illiteracy pounced on the baby, scolding him with horror in his voice: “As you are not ashamed! Cannot do that! “

Guilt can also arise from an internal attitude: “I can’t enjoy sex and life in general” or “I can’t be an adult.” In any case, it is important to explore how you are doing with this feeling and where it arises from.

To do this, try to recall situations from the past and evaluate:

• What injuries could you apply in childhood?
• What image and what idea are you trying to match in this matter?

What are the steps to take to “unblock” your sexual energy?

1. Analyze yourself and your past experience. It is very important to find concrete moments with the help of the above questions and work on them.
2. Find your relationship with sex. It would be good to see in this process pleasure and enjoyment, and not a way to seek approval or love from another.
3. When you have sex, try to be in the here and now. and direct all attention to bodily sensations, and not to thinking about how you look, whether everything is fine, and so on. Sometimes it is difficult to do, but if you set a goal, then everything is possible.

   Every time you fly away into thoughts, bring yourself back into your body and focus on the sensations you are experiencing. At first, you will have to make an effort to bring yourself back to the here and now, but over time, you will automatically switch. Study your body more, go for massages, do all kinds of practices to reconnect with it and feel it better.

4. First take care of yourself, then about the friend. This is the universal rule of life. Although many are afraid to even just think in this way, taking such an approach for selfishness. But this is a delusion. No wonder they say: “Put a mask on yourself, then on the child.” You can help another if you yourself are in the resource. Otherwise, you will be angry with a partner.
5. Learn to speak. And this is also a universal rule for life – one of the “whales” on which relationships, sex and friendship are built. Many are afraid to speak due to child experiences, when to express their needs it was impossible, or they punished, or when the child did not make sense to share his feelings, knowing that he would not hear him. But as adults, we are able to change the strategies that prevent us from living.

With a careful attitude to yourself and the desire to change the situation, you can work out blocking feelings and improve the quality of life. Well, of course, do not be shy, turning to help professionals – psychologists, sexologists. Alas, this topic is still taboo for many of us. But the result is a more harmonious sex life – it is worth the efforts spent on solving the problem.