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Hello dear blog readers! What do you think men like in women? In addition to a beautiful figure, what else do they pay attention to? It is clear that everyone’s tastes and preferences are different, but let’s try to figure this out together.
Attractive and valuable character traits
Feminine power
And this is not about the ability to flirt and flirt, although this is also appreciated. No, it is the ability to be true to one’s identity. That is, to be a woman. And this means that it makes no sense to enter into competition with a man. Proving to the opposite sex that you are stronger, faster or smarter is, of course, an interesting undertaking, but what good will it bring, except for loneliness?
Yes, a certain position in society, money, power, respect… It’s not always possible to work in a purely female team. Sometimes you have to fight for your place in the sun, and not even quite honestly. But what prevents you from allowing yourself to be soft and gentle in the presence of a guy? After all, even in the work process, we do not lose gender.
Learn to keep your identity under any circumstances. Otherwise, you will simply scare away those who initially like it. It is important for a man to protect his partner, and for this he needs to be stronger. And if you strive to defeat him, pretending to fulfill duties that are not yours, and teaching him how to do it right, then, in the end, he will either move away, or completely give power for the relationship to you.
By the way, we recommend reading an article about the stages of relations between a man and a woman.
Ability to be happy
The psychology of a person is such that he is looking for an opportunity to satisfy his needs in contact with another. Someone wants tenderness and warmth, calmness, someone, on the contrary, drive, excitement. But with all this, rarely anyone is eager to play the role of the rescuer of Princess Nesmeyana.
That is, if you only complain about life and put all your hopes on your deliverer from loneliness and other suffering, you will have to continue searching for the very one. A person who knows how to appreciate life and enjoy it — that’s what attracts and causes a desire to communicate, build relationships. Stress, conflicts and so surround us at every step, there must be someone next to whom you can take off your armor.
An unhappy girl can be supported, taken care of, but over time, if she is stable in her experiences, irritation will begin to appear. And this is quite normal. So, if you are used to looking at the world pessimistically, try to change your reality at least a little, but, first of all, it will become easier for you. This article will help you learn how to be in the present and appreciate life. You can find it by clicking here.
Maternal instinct
If you want a relationship with a man, you do not need to strive to change him, improve him, and so on. Maternal instinct is realized on children, in extreme cases, on pets. But not on a mature and conscious person, with whom it is necessary to be on an equal footing. He had already gone through the process of education exactly at the age when he was relevant. Even if I grew up without parents.
The need to change another and adjust it to yourself is very frightening in fact, and it causes a lot of malice. If something does not suit you, you can always calmly discuss the problem and try to find a compromise. If you understand that your partner does not listen to your requests and experiences, ignoring the fact that, for example, pain causes you with his behavior. Then instead of declaring war, try to understand why this is happening. Maybe you put too much pressure on him, or is he just like that and not ready to transform yet?
Learn to accept people for who they are. Yes, it’s not easy. But you always have a choice. Ask yourself about your willingness to put up with something. If yes, then leave your loved one alone. If not, decide how to deal with it.
Confidence
This is the foundation, without which any walls will collapse, even if you put supports. Jealousy and control destroy even the closest and deepest bonds. Because at first they cause a lot of anger, and destructive, from which it is impossible to get satisfaction. And then impotence. And this torments both the one who is jealous and the one who is jealous.
Give free space to your partner, and respect his personal boundaries. This will reduce the level of stress, and save you from having to hide something. Guys really don’t like women’s tantrums. Especially if they are formed from scratch. That is, because of groundless jealousy, only because they wanted attention. This is manipulation. Which do not add attractiveness, and desire to be together. Except for guilt. And then, not everyone will survive.
By the way, you can pass the test for the ability to manipulate people.
Awareness and the ability to maintain confidentiality
It means that the male half of humanity tries to avoid talkative women. They want their chosen one to be not only smart, or comprehensively developed, so that there is something to talk about with her. But also to be able to distinguish what information can be shared, for example, with girlfriends, and what is not.
Excessively talkative, they consider silly. In this regard, then you can not even dream of respect. And how will intimacy be formed when a partner has a low opinion? With those who cannot be trusted, you have to be on your guard so as not to give out too much yourself. So learn to keep your privacy. Even when communicating with friends, you should be careful, it is not always necessary to give out family or intimate details. Which then pop up not in your favor.
Well-groomed
What other women are chosen? Those who care about their appearance. Yes, tastes are different, someone wants a full brunette, and someone is crazy about skinny blondes. You can’t guess and you can’t please everyone. Dress how you like and fit, wear bright colors or opt for nude shades. But — take care of yourself. Even if you are for natural beauty, this is fine, but the skin, for example, still requires attention. And wash your hair. Excess vegetation causes disgust in guys. Except in special cases, there are those who, on the contrary, get excited about it. And, unfortunately, or perhaps fortunately, they are very rare.
So, if you want to win someone over, find the time and money to take care of your appearance. No matter how beautiful your inner world is, you still need to get to it in order to discern its uniqueness and peculiarity. And to approach a person who does not value himself is not always desirable. If you’re having trouble with self-esteem, try reading the information listed here. It will help you love yourself so that someone else can love you too.
Ability to yield
Yes, it is important to be smart, but it is not always important to be the first and only right. Even if in your couple you are really more developed than your partner. He will constantly stumble upon his own limitations, from which he will get hurt and lose self-respect. How do you think this could all end? Obviously, it’s not good, right? If you really have a need to lead, think about how else you can get recognition from him?
Constantly proving your case — you will only increase the tension, but in no way will cause joy from the realization that how smart the companion has got. Representatives of the strong half of humanity want a good, wise woman, and not one that finds a thousand arguments in its favor. You can always be right and the most-most. But one.
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Do you know one of the principles of raising a happy and successful child? Very effective and popular. He needs to be constantly praised. Many people think that criticism motivates. Maybe. But people usually strive to match the words they hear addressed to them. Don’t prove otherwise. After all, it is much easier and more pleasant to match. Yes, it uses less energy. So do not forget to admire your loved one and tell him what really makes you happy. Then he will have a desire to wish you happy as often as possible.
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I recommend that you also read an article about what a man in love feels.
Please share in the comments what character traits I have not listed here. Perhaps you can give feedback, and share information about what you yourself first of all pay attention to when you meet or make a choice for yourself regarding a companion or life partner. We will be very grateful! And that’s all for today, subscribe to the blog, and be happy, attract, love, create and inspire!
The material was prepared by a psychologist, Gestalt therapist, Zhuravina Alina.