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Being a mom is the most honorable position in the world. All women deal with her in their own way, but, undoubtedly, each is the best for her child.
Psychologists assure: perfect mothers do not exist. There are no social institutions where they teach how to be a mother so that you can choose a certain style of behavior. The only thing a woman can do is to copy her mother’s model of behavior.
“The gene of motherhood has an intergenerational family character,” explains psychologist Milana Burchakova. – But the specific situation also plays a role. Sometimes the same scenario is reproduced from generation to generation. Generations are different, situations are different, but the essence is the same. However, some women choose to counter-scenario their relationship with their mother. But both options are wrong, and each specific situation is different. You cannot blame a woman for raising a child in one way or another. Even the worst, in the opinion of the public, a mother tries to be the best for her child. “
The parenting style of the child is usually influenced by the dominant character traits of the mother. Of course, it is impossible to divide all mothers in the world into several types, but we will try to highlight the main patterns of behavior and consider their features.
Mother hen
Mother hens tend to surround their child with excessive care, like hens incubating their eggs, sometimes not even caring about their own food. The life of their children is scheduled according to the strictest schedule: a pool for babies, English from year to year. Mother hens often do not realize that the child has grown up, even if it has already celebrated 35 years and does not know where to go from custody. According to psychologists, the childhood memories of mothers are to blame: most likely, they themselves did not receive parental love and attention in childhood. However, most of the problems and behavioral patterns of parents come from childhood.
Mom is perfection
She strives for the ideal in everything. A child, as an object of pride, which needs to be demonstrated to everyone, should look exceptionally perfect: no tantrums in public and diathesis. The baby is the first of his peers to smile, crawl, talk, walk, read and draw, quotes Kant in the original and eats exclusively with a knife and fork. Perhaps one of the most annoying types, because they cannot help bragging about the success of their child.
Ecomama
From the side of the eco-mom – a well-groomed young girl with a minimum of makeup. Its obligatory attribute is a sling, from which the baby’s head sticks out. Such a mom votes for breastfeeding with two hands, preferably up to three years old, cotton reusable diapers, organic cosmetics – ideally oils, seasonal products, homeopathy and yoga. Ekomama stands for conscious motherhood and worries about the world in which her child will live. She also dreams of wintering in Bali, because there are no GMOs and warm clothes are not needed.
Dictator mom
The dictator mom has full control over all the actions of her child. Voting right? Laughter, and nothing more. Trying to express yourself? Prohibited. For such a mother, everything is laid out on the shelves and is performed strictly according to the regulations. The commander in the apron is sure: she has the right to control every step not only of her offspring, but also of his own children. A child is an object of upbringing, subordinate to a strict “must”, regardless of wishes.
Mom-servant
A characteristic of the behavior of a servant mother is endless attempts to predict all the whims of her beloved child, indulging the slightest whim. All baby’s desires are law. Plans change depending on the baby’s mood. The servant mother’s only mission is to meet the needs of the baby. With excessive diligence, an overly active lady tires not only herself, but also the object of care, who would be glad to hide from overprotection, but so far cannot due to age or circumstances.
Fashion-мама
On the playground, a fashionista mom is easily recognizable by her addiction to fashionable boats, perfect makeup and intricate hairstyle. The child is dressed to match – shorts to match mom’s bag, even now on the cover of children’s Vogue. And the stroller was bought in a brand store. True, in a sandbox in such attire you will not tinker a lot. And it’s better to forget about puddles too.
The keeper of the hearth
The child of such a mother will not have to snack on store-bought yogurt with a bunch of dyes and preservatives. All the more, the child will not get hungry on a walk – the parent will take care of a tasty and healthy snack in advance. In the arsenal of the “keeper of the hearth” there are many recipes for mashed potatoes and soups, suitable for the most fastidious kids. All of this woman’s energy is spent on supporting her family.
Mother-child
Nobody perceives mother-child as an adult and independent person, including herself. And even more so, she is completely unable to take care of the child, to bear responsibility for him. Age has nothing to do with it. The parent can be either 18 or 45 years old. The mother-child does not trust her intuition at all, is distinguished by infantilism, immaturity and a tendency to anxiety. She is even afraid to take a child in her arms once again: “He is fragile, suddenly I will drop it?”
Mom-surprise
This parent is characterized by a changeable, erratic, inconsistent and unpredictable mood. “Maybe press it to my heart, or maybe send it to the devil” – this is about her. The surprise mom is completely unable to control her emotions. She does not adjust to the amplitude of the child’s emotions, but adjusts the baby to herself. She changes the system of upbringing or a pediatrician easily and in a big way, unexpectedly succumbing to a new trend.
Smart mom
Smart Mom has received her PhD in absolutely any subject and is always ready to provide expert advice on the playground. Her child tried out all the new things in the toy industry, experienced advanced development methods and even the principles of nutrition. The parent is sure: the world absolutely needs a maternity school, where she will be a leading specialist. She wants to raise a person of the future who is able to use the reserves of her body and the world around her to the maximum.
Cuckoo mom
For a businesswoman mom, it’s like a quest, to carve out at least an hour for a walk with the child. Ideally, to have a phone or tablet on hand – it is unacceptable to break away from work even for an hour. At other times, caring for the child is shifted to the grandmother or nanny. And as a teenager, you can even transfer to the so-called self-education mode, however, not forgetting to keep track of the main points through the delegation of authority to the same grandmother or father of the child. The eldest daughter is preparing to become a mother herself, and her son desperately needs to be cut off from the army, and you don’t know? It happens. The only thing worth remembering: in pursuit of a career, the main thing is not to suddenly discover that your child considers you a stranger.
Mom friend
This mother considers it necessary to teach the cub to independence from the cradle. The child develops social skills early, learns to use the most valuable right – the right to choose. However, the parent is always there to show and guide. You can negotiate with her, but you also have to learn this first. At the same time, communication skills will be pumped.
Mom blogger
Today, any mother can talk about her unique experience of potty training and recipes for making delicious broccoli casseroles. All you need is nothing: have a computer, pay for the Internet, a love of chatter and a child who sleeps for at least an hour a day. If you wish, you can also create a business: sew soft toys or knit caps and sell them to subscribers. Motherhood is a great launching pad.