In maternal work, as in any other, mistakes and joys, doubts and successes, defeats and victories are possible. Maternal love, worries and worries are a complex and multifaceted part of a woman’s life. All mothers are not alike, just as children are not alike.
Why is it important to talk about the role a mother plays in a family? First of all, because in relationships with children, the mother involuntarily pours out hidden unconscious experiences and fears accumulated throughout her life onto the child. For example, a hen mother may overprotect a child because of anxiety or fear of loneliness, an investigator mother may resort to overcontrol due to nervous overstrain, and Baba Yaga’s mother instills fear in a small person, as she herself is afraid of something. The endless remarks and “programming” of the way of life and thoughts of the child of the mother-Nesmeyana come from her suspiciousness or adherence to principles.
Another feature of the parental relationship is the projection of the mother’s personal problems onto the child, that is, the adult accuses the little one of what is inherent in him, but is not realized for a number of reasons. Mom does not notice this shortcoming in herself, but she sees it perfectly in the baby and unconditionally demands something in which she herself is not an example. Mom consciously says one thing, but does something completely different, trying to correct the behavior, character and even personality of the child, without trying to change herself.
We conditionally identified various psychological types of mothers, talked about some of the negative traits of the mother’s character and behavior, so that the reader can look at himself from the outside, realize the shortcomings of his character, rebuild, if necessary, relations with the child and become a more mature and creative person.
We wish all mothers sincere generosity and breadth of views, kindness, not burdened by egoism, egocentrism and rationalism.
mother hen
The mother hen nurses her chicks for a long time and patiently. For several weeks she sits motionless, almost without food, does not let anyone close, giving her warmth to future babies. The hatched mother hen teaches everything: to walk, eat, drink, stay close, hide in mother’s feathers. Truly a maternal feat. See →
Cuckoo mom
What is common in the behavior of mother and bird? The cuckoo lays her eggs with unhatched chicks in other people’s nests. The cuckoo mother also shifts the care of her own child to someone else — a grandmother or a nanny.
You may object: there is nothing special about the fact that the mother is busy, and someone else has taken care of the baby. Perhaps it is unfair to consider a woman working after childbirth as a cuckoo who abandons her chick? Of course, every family, without prompting, decides how to raise a child, who will take care of the upbringing of a newborn. But if the question of who will earn and who will raise the child is resolved before the baby is born, the whole family will win. See →
Mom Investigator
Mom-investigator is very energetic, emotional, curious. She is a powerful and knowledgeable woman. Exaggerated demands, inability to assess the abilities of your child, give him the right to make a mistake can lead to the fact that the baby will first try to say not everything, hide or lie, just to avoid reproaches and punishments. And then whims, stubbornness, neurotic behavior of the child may appear. See →
Mom — Baba Yaga
This mother is trying to get the obedience of the child, intimidating him with demands, seeking obedience with anger and irritation. If a small person acts in his own way, then most often punishment follows, including physical punishment.
Baba Yaga gu.e. and categorically talks to children, only she knows what and how to do — therefore she points, commands, urges, belittles their sense of dignity, does not allow children to be independent. She is easily irritated and loses her temper. Can scream and swear. See →
Mom-Princess
With all the differences, all three princess mothers — strict Nesmeyana, cold Snow Queen, dreamy Sleeping Beauty — are similar to each other. See →