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What are lubricants for and in what cases can they help?
Sexuality
They can be very useful for cases of vaginal dryness, but also to improve relationships
If we always say that things related to sex are a bit taboo, within the theme there is something about which it costs even more to talk: lubricants. Either by the perception that if they use it is because there is a problem, or by simple ignorance, it seems that they are always mentioned with a small mouth, as if they were talking about a secret.
But just as a sex toy can be a vehicle to have fuller relationships and better attunement with the couple, the lubricants that, of course, are used in cases where there are lubrication problems, can also be a interesting complement in the field of relationships. “Although lubricants can sometimes be
necessary, they are a perfect complement for many more occasions than you think ”, says María Mas, psychologist, sexologist and couples therapist.
Also, comment that not only is lubricant necessary when we have vaginal dryness diagnosed for some reason, if not also, for example, when the lubrication is not so fluid, during the menstrual cycle that varies or with menopause. “Of course, there are those times when we want to have a different experience, get out of the ordinary and experience erotic relationships in a different way. At the moment the lubricant is the perfect complement to make it possible ”, says the professional.
New sensations
In addition, María Mas mentions that lubricants can provide different sensations, as well as other ways to enjoy relationships. “They can provide us with smells, flavors, longer duration or even being able to enjoy practices where there is not so much lubrication in a natural way, such as anal sex or sex under water,” says the professional, who assures that lubricants are a complement that helps to enrich all the erotic.
Within lubricants, there are three types. Alicia Zurita, founder and CEO of Lubets, a lubricant brand, explains that there are those that are water-based, those that are oil-based, and those that are silicone. The water-based and oil-based ones are the most used, and they are also normally natural, vegan and ecological. «In the case of water-based lubricant It can always be used, both with and without a condom. The oil-based one is incompatible with both condoms and silicone toys, but its use under water is much better, since it does not dilute. In addition, it is ideal for dryness and for those who want more durability, as it does not evaporate like water based ”, points out Alicia Zurita.
Why do you have vaginal dryness
Although it is a complement to relationships, it cannot be ignored that lubricants are essential in situations of vaginal dryness. This can be derived from multiple causes, such as hormonal contraceptive methods or, facing the summer, spending a lot of time in a pool or spa. «Another circumstance is when there is not enough sexual arousal. If you are not aroused enough, the body will not secrete enough lubrication ”, indicates María Mas, who comments that therefore, if you are distracted, or in situations where it is difficult to get excited, you will not have that lubrication. “In addition, there are other factors such as stress, anxiety or some medications such as antihistamines or some antidepressants, which alter sexual function,” says the professional.
About arousal, the sexologist says that we cannot talk about dryness without talking about it. “When we try to have sex and we are not aroused enough, we probably feel vaginal dryness that will not only cause a loss of enjoyment, but even displeasure, discomfort or pain,” he says. He says that it is very important to dedicate time to arousal and, for this, he assures that you have to work on desire, phase prior to arousal. “It is important that we can work on that desire and, of course, everything that gives us pleasure. Our body requires time to be able to secrete all the lubrication that will promote a pleasant vaginal penetration “, explains the professional. For this reason, remember the importance of spending time caressing, exploring the erogenous zones, practicing masturbation, oral sex and external stimulation before moving on to vaginal stimulation.
Finally, the psychologist and sexologist talks about what can be done in case of vaginal dryness that “is beyond our control”, as it is caused, for example, by hormonal problems. «LThe first and main solution is to give a good lubricant that can help us to facilitate any sexual stimulation “, says María Más. In addition, she recommends” delighting more in promoting the arousal response to achieve a greater physical lubrication response and, also, use a good intimate moisturizer “. “But above all, the most important thing is that if you have vaginal dryness or unpleasantness in your sexual relations, you should consult your gynecologist or your trusted sexologist,” he concludes.