well-mannered man

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A well-mannered person is a person who shows good breeding, a person with good manners and respect for other people. According to D. Likhachev, a well-mannered person is one who wants and knows how to reckon with others, this is one to whom his own politeness is not only familiar and easy, but also pleasant. This is the one who is equally polite with both older and younger years and position.

An educated person is not obsessed with himself, he is attentive, sees and feels another person, takes care not to cause him unnecessary inconvenience.

At the same time, an educated person is not necessarily a person of high morals. Sometimes among educated people one can meet both a swindler and a scoundrel, but more often among educated people people of high decency prevail.

Good breeding is sometimes linked with openness and tolerance, they are sometimes combined, but the connection here is accidental. A well-bred samurai will slaughter a man in the same way as an ill-mannered bandit from the highway, only more carefully and with great ceremonies. Torquemada, the first Grand Inquisitor of Spain, was a very well-mannered man, but cruel and not at all open. An educated person can be a slave to caste, religious or anti-religious prejudices.

Good breeding is often, but not necessarily, connected with education, just as education is not always accompanied by good breeding.

Education is an individual and personal result of education, the quality of a person, which consists in the ability to independently solve problems, based on the social experience mastered.

But politeness always enters into good breeding: a well-mannered person will always be polite, although a polite person is not necessarily brought up yet.

Real upbringing always involves internal discipline, self-control. An educated person is positive, does not use conflictogens, shows syntonicity, behaves with restraint and dignity in a conflict. An educated person owns his emotions, never throws a tantrum. In communication with an equal, a well-mannered person does not interrupt, but is ready to listen to the interlocutor, avoids conflictogens, uses synthons. He is in no hurry to make claims when he can make a request. When giving orders, a well-mannered leader also prefers the form of a request.

Education implies attentiveness, accuracy and targeting in expressive movements.

When a well-mannered person listens, his face is not frozen, not dead, but attentive, reflecting the state of the partner and expressing in time those emotions that serve as support and prompt suggestion to the partner. If there is no need to express support and there is no need for prompt suggestions, the face of a well-mannered person is calm and neutrally benevolent.

Good breeding is a certain restraint in expressive movements. Too loud laughter, waving hands among well-mannered people is not welcome. Another detail in which upbringing is manifested in expressive movements is their subtlety.

Gestures are beautiful, not with a paw, not with the whole palm, but with live playing fingers, each of which can speak separately. Surprise is not with a turn of the whole body, but with one glance or a raised eyebrow. Subtlety, beauty, aesthetics of each movement is a feature of well-mannered people.

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