The second heroine of our new column was Tatyana Belkova – a mother without a star trail, but with a very difficult fate. The author of Woman’s Day tells her story, and at the end of the article, “WDAY mom” Tatiana herself shares her golden rules of motherhood.
She came to our first meeting wearing a headscarf, constantly smiling and embarrassedly hiding her hands burnt by the next chemotherapy under the table. A year later, I did not recognize her …
On the threshold stood a beautiful fragile blonde in an elegant dress and stiletto heels. Tatyana Belkova is a little over 30 years old, she has three children, four jobs and no husband. She learned about cancer over a year ago. Then the source of her income was cakes, which she baked in a six-meter kitchen and sold. The diagnosis did not cripple Tanya, but only forced her to mobilize.
In between the side effects from various unpleasant procedures, she continued to be a mother and a business woman with cakes. Then, numerous subscribers to her Instagram page sympathized with her, empathized, supported, now admire her.
She not only defeated the disease, although remission can hardly be called a victory, and has become incredibly prettier, but also continues to gain momentum in social activities.
When Tanya’s hands were damaged by chemotherapy, she was unable to bake. But you have to live and feed your children for something. She went to a cosmetics company where her mom built the business. Happened! So she got another job, because she soon returned to her favorite business – cakes.
Even during her illness, Tanya had so much energy that she organized her own club “The Art of Living”, within the framework of which she regularly held meetings with everyone to share her joys and hear about strangers. Extremely positive! So she was soon offered to host a program on the online radio “Comet” with the name of her club. The story is still the same – meetings with interesting, positive people who share their experience and knowledge on the air. For this work, Tanya does not receive a penny, only positive emotions.
She was also lucky enough to try herself in the role of an Internet journalist on a car portal – she arranges test drives for different cars and writes about them from the point of view of a beautiful blonde. By the way, she also does not receive money for this, she works for experience. And Tanya dreams of her social program on television.
And all this between a fitness club for myself, a school and a swimming pool for 12-year-old Petit, kindergarten and English classes for 7-year-old Vitya and 5-year-old Masha. In their free time from work and circles, they go together to cafes, cinema, museums and travel.
Tatyana told Woman’s Day what rules she lives by so that every day is 100%.
1. Need to want. This is very important, because now people do not want anything. When a person wants nothing, he does nothing. I have lived too long in the “nothing is allowed” regime, so now I want everything and a lot. And money does not matter here.
2. The six-case rule. On the eve of each day, I make myself a list of six active and six passive tasks. I refer to passive ones that are performed without leaving the house: disassemble the closet, wash the windows, re-glue the wallpaper. Active tasks are related to affairs outside the apartment. Moreover, routine ones that are performed regularly, such as taking a child to the pool, are not considered. If for some reason I did not do something from the list, I transfer it to the first items of the next day.
3. Use every free minute, work towards results. In traffic, I write questions for guests on the radio; while the child is swimming, I call at work, make appointments; during the shower, I perform skin care procedures. This is how my whole life goes. No need to waste time waiting, it’s better to get busy.
4. Do not judge other people, do not succumb to negativity. You will never know what kind of life this or that person has, what makes him do this or that act. I am very often attacked by “trolls” on the network, sometimes it unsettles me. But then I understand that people simply have nothing to do, they have a boring life, and I sympathize with them. The sun always hides behind the clouds.
5. Try new things constantly. For example, when I come to a cafe, I choose a dish that I have never eaten. This makes life more diverse and rich.
6. It is necessary to correctly formulate desires. My opinion: when you ask for something from the Universe, you need to formulate the desire very clearly. And ask only for yourself. This is how we voice our desires, accepting them. After that, we begin to move towards their execution.
7. Do charity work. Others also need help, but tangibly, tangibly. And this must be in life. The type of charity does not matter. (Tatiana regularly conducts charity events on her social network page, and sends the funds received to those in need. – Approx. Woman’s Day.)
8. Communicate only with those people with whom you enjoy spending time. Why waste your life on those with whom you feel bad, uninteresting? This also applies to men. Each person is unique, you need to accept this without trying to change. Then you will be fine with him, and he will be with you.
9. You don’t have to blame anyone. You are responsible for your own life. And no one is to blame for the fact that something does not work out or does not happen. Cancer is not the brightest event in my life, I both then and now live to the fullest. I don’t want to regret later that I didn’t have time, didn’t go or overslept.