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Each of us has our own destiny, and about “rules” and “right” I often hear the following: Correct is restrictions, and I do not like anything that limits me! As soon as I hear that it is necessary to live like this, I immediately want to live the other way around.
I don’t like being forced, and I hate the word «must!»
Here came the bill in the mail, now you have to go and pay for the light: damn it, you have to! If you need it, then I don’t want to. Well, do not want to — this will only change the fact that you will pay the bill in a bad mood. Do not be angry, it is necessary — this is not a nasty «forcing», but just need. It is necessary — that’s all. If I don’t do what needs to be done, it will all have to be done later or by someone else.
Only children play «I want — I don’t want»
If a child has caring parents, he gets used to the fact that his «I want — I don’t want» is something important. If you don’t want to, say “I don’t want to!”, And then you won’t eat this porridge. But maybe you can still eat? They persuaded you, and you strongly said: “I don’t want to!”, And you were in the center of attention. Great, only your childhood has passed and we have become adults. And adults already know that there is no one to seriously talk about their “I want — I don’t want”. If you want — go and make yourselfif you can, or buy if you have the money. And adults just do what is necessary, because no one will do it for them.
Only children play «I want — I don’t want»
Unless, of course, they are really adults, and stopped playing in childhood. I want — I don’t want. At the same time, even a child does not always object to an unpleasant “must”. Children only object to a weak Nada, a not sure Nada.
Here is the opposite wall speaks confidently: “Come here, but you don’t need to go here, you can’t, here I am, the wall!”, And the child does not argue with the wall, he goes through the door, and not through the wall. The child checked: the wall is stone, it is useless to argue with the wall, getting upset and crying does not work on it, so he is not offended by the wall. But it’s a different matter with mom: if you cry and stomp your feet, then her “should” and “shouldn’t” change to “well, okay, just a little!”, so you can argue with mom, you can do as you want and be harmful when she says this opposite «should».