Ventilation of emotions

Ventilation of (own) emotions — dispelling emotions, methods of releasing emotional stress (resentment, anger, insults) through a specially organized pronunciation, shouting or physical activity.

The main thing is to provide conditions for a free, unhindered, without restraint release of emotional stress.

Film «Chocolate»

After an unsuccessful conversation, when rage is choking, it’s good to kick and beat the enemy statue from the heart.

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​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​Basic procedures

The main procedures for the ventilation of emotions include:

• Tell what happened, share

“I told everyone about the problem — I felt better.” If you told everyone, but it didn’t feel much better, you probably need to go to a psychologist: I’ll tell you there, and they’ll do something else to make me feel completely better. Maybe with the help of a psychologist the problem will be solved. (The fact that you need to take responsibility for solving your own psychological problem is out of the question in this case. The language of responsibility is not a female language↑.)

• Speaking difficult emotions

Usually this is a pair work: one needs to name and describe his experiences, the other needs to competently, supportively listen. See →

• Drawing difficult situations and relationships,
• Kinesthetic pumping, discharge of tension by physical activity.

Many are helped out simply by intensive housework (wiping the floors, digging up a garden bed) or sports. Sex also gives energetic kinesthetic and respiratory pumping.

• Respiratory pumping.

After that, it’s good to get distracted, find yourself in a situation where nothing reminds you of the past, and just sleep.

How to deal with holding back your anger, anger, irritation and other aggressive emotions

Restraint in behavior, the ability to restrain one’s negative feelings is an indicator of internal culture and good breeding, an indispensable attribute of a business and simply successful person. If you do not wind up emotions inside yourself, then restraint in behavior and expression of your feelings is not at all harmful. See →

Operational work with emotions in conflict

If you need to calm down not only and not so much for you, but for the other side (for example, in a conflict), then see Operational work with emotions in a conflict