Hello, my name is Eldar.
Good afternoon, Eldar.
— Nikolai Ivanovich, tell me, please, very often people begin to take an active position in life, boldly make their decisions after the roasted rooster has pecked. What is this mechanism, why is this happening?
— Eldar, since we have a lesson, I will immediately teach. Let’s start by remembering your question. You asked: «it often happens that a person begins to live in the author’s position when a roasted rooster pecks him.» Why is this happening? I want to point out, Eldar, that while you are interested in this question «why is this happening», you will, as a rule, be in the position of a victim. You will explore how certain patterns govern human behavior. Yes, I am a scientist, I study patterns, but I also know that those people who ask what it depends on, why it happens — they basically, as a rule, want to find excuses that such patterns control their fate . The author’s position, as a rule, is different. I know that I or my friends have a certain task, and I ask how I can move in that direction, in the direction of solving the problem that interests me. Therefore, Eldar, if you reformulate this question, if you ask me, not “what does it depend on”, but formulate your goal and task, what do you want to get in your life, what to change, then I will move forward with you and this will be the author’s position, constructive. How would you formulate your question?
— So what should I change in my life in order to move forward in the author’s position?
“Great Eldar, great second step. I reproduce what you said: «What should I change in my life so that I start moving forward.» Yes Eldar? So they asked?
— Yes.
“Look what Eldar says: “I can’t move myself. There are some hidden circumstances, maybe mental or some other physical features in my personality or where in what place. Until something changes there, I am a helpless being. And until we figure it out and remove the blocks, suppose I fantasize for you, or something else, I understand, Eldar, I will not move forward. Again, this is hardwired into the Russian mentality or was inspired by some psychological literature, and instead of moving forward, people begin to look for those blocks, those obstacles, those difficulties that definitely do not allow moving forward. Eldar, then I will ask differently: “What do you want? Find what obstacles to move forward? Well, you have found obstacles, and then where are you going to move?
“Something you just destroyed my head.
“Alright, Eldar, take your time. You can think slowly. Imagine that you received an answer to your question, and I answered you. Everything, nothing is holding you back. Everything works out for you. Where are you going to move and what are you going to do?
— First of all, I want to take full responsibility for my life.
— What will you do next, when they took it, Eldar?
“I have a goal, I want to make it a reality. She is very big.
— Here is the Eldar, then let’s name this goal, and stop doing extraneous matters, the search for blocks, responsibility, which of course determine the life of the Eldar, in his thinking for the time being. It’s set aside and let’s go ahead, what does the Eldar want? You just need to start doing what the Eldar wants. Eldar, what are the life goals?
Life goals are to change the world.
— Now that’s good. Eldar, that’s good. This is the beginning of the author’s position. It is clear that so far this is a helpless formulation, because it is extremely abstract. What does it mean to change the world? If you turn your head to the left or right, you have already, strictly speaking, changed the world, you have changed the position of one element in this world. But I can assume that you want something different and you have some pictures of Life, which should be as a result of your activity of remaking the world of the device. When I was a schoolboy, I had a clear task to make humanity happy. I developed formulas, ways, I went to the Faculty of Psychology to implement this plan. And for the last few decades (30 years) I have been doing these things. Therefore, either now, Eldar, or later, you just need to fix in memory what you want to do in life and start doing it.
— Yes.
— And when, instead of doing this, he will study, and why he still doesn’t do it … How many months or years Eldar can study the question of why he still doesn’t do it, instead of doing it. How much? One month you can do this, 3 years? Eldar question.
— You know, now I catch myself thinking, after your words, I have been doing this for 4 months.
Great Eldar. And maybe today is the day when Eldar writes to himself: “Stop, my dear, fooling your head, start doing business.”
— It’s not easy to hear.
— Well, good. I think then today is a good day, very serious results.
— Yes. Tomorrow we will listen to your lesson again.
— Fabulous. Thank you, Eldar, it was a very good conversation, important and necessary.