There is no umbilical cord between you and your mother. There is your and your mother’s fantasy on this topic.
Why is this mom? Mom really wants to feel the connection between herself and the child, she needs something to occupy herself↑.
Why do you need it? If you are afraid of something in life, afraid to do it and looking for an opportunity not to do it — on this stream you will feel a deep sense of guilt in front of your mother and you will deal with the issue of your mother for a long time, because this is a cool way not to do what you need. And you invent a problem for yourself and take care of your mother, because you are just afraid to do what you need.
Do you need to do bullshit or do you have something to do in life? Then you go and do it. If you love what you do, if you know to do what you plan to do, then you go and do it. Let’s say there’s a war going on. You say: “You know, I’m busy. I need to talk to my mom. Excuse me, I’m not up to you, not up to the war. Mom is very worried about where I will go, and what if something happens to me, I will catch a cold in this war.
Empty experiences are experiences that have no actual meaning either for the person himself, or for the cause, or for the environment. Experiences triggered in a pattern, out of habit.
Close concepts: experiencing is a far-fetched experience created from scratch by those who like to experience. Empty experiences have no purpose and meaning, experiencing has no basis.
If you have a big, important matter, you will not talk about your umbilical cord with your mother, if necessary, you will go where you need to and do what is necessary. In the meantime, you are a loafer — you will be engaged in psychological conversations with your mother. Who are you? A loafer? No. Then do business.