Typical difficulties in self-development

Only those who do not work do not face difficulties. You are faced. Amazing! All difficulties are surmountable, we will solve them in the order they are received.

So, typical difficulties in self-development:

• The new is scary.

Of course, it is scary — simply because you have not yet learned how to work with fears. Learn — there will be no fears, or, more importantly, learn to be stronger than any of your fears. In summary: if your fears bother you, write down your fears clearly and set yourself the task of freeing yourself from these fears. see work with fear. Who is more energetic — reframe fear into a challenge and use your fear as a resource: fear invigorates. Remind yourself more often of why and for what you are doing everything. Is there a reason, is there a dream before your eyes? Think about how to go forward not alone (not alone), but with someone. It’s more fun with someone!↑

• Lots of doubts.

This is normal, only thoughtless people do not doubt. The right decision is to schedule time for business, schedule time for doubt. There are people who constantly doubt, and even when they seem to have made a decision, they stop and start to think everything over again. It interferes. What can help here? Set your points of doubt — a period of time in the plan, you give yourself the opportunity to analyze your doubts and make a new decision to replace the one you made before. What to do with doubts at this time? — Just write it down. The time will come for doubts, take a sheet of paper again, write down all the pros and cons, doubt productively. So: we plan our actions, we plan the points of doubt, when we allow ourselves to doubt and plan new actions. The rest of the time we are active.

• I grab everything at once.

And you want to develop your memory, and master speed reading, typing with ten fingers urgently, and also posture, voice and leadership skills … To make all this yours, learn to work according to a plan. Make a list of everything you want to master, then break it into three groups. In the first group — the most important and urgent skills, without which — in any way. In the second — important, but you can postpone at least a month. In the third — you want, but in principle you can do without. Now write all the skills of the first group into the schedule: what days and hours you will do what. Further — calmly and methodically. Methodism and consistency give much better results than vanity and dispersion.

• I mastered one thing — I forget the other.

It is true that if the necessary skills are not worked out to habit and automatism, this is exactly what happens. For something new to become yours and familiar, you need exercise and training. Successful people don’t practice 1000 moves 3 times. They practice 3 movements 1000 times, then the real result comes. And until you get used to one — do not start the second. For more information about the scheme of effective work, see →

• It doesn’t work at all.

Sometimes it doesn’t work at all. So, you need to figure out what and how you did, understand your mistakes, draw conclusions and move on. Do not understand your mistakes and find it difficult to draw conclusions — talk to smart people, they will tell you. Everything will work out. Definitely, although not immediately. The main tip is to make sure that the beginning of any of your business is easy and pleasant.

• I plan and forget. Fired up and cooled down.

This is familiar to many, if desired, it is quite surmountable. To better organize yourself, see Methods for Effective Self-Organization

• Illusion of the result.

This is when it seems that I already know how to do everything, but in reality I just know everything and just now I’m in a good mood. But I faced reality, my mood changed — and now it seems that I can’t do anything and everything is in vain. Where is the truth? Go back to “Goal Setting” and describe your goal, what you are striving for, specifically, through something verifiable and observable. Not “become more successful”, but where I will work and how much I specifically want to earn.

• It seems that he was already used to the new, but he lost his way and returned to the old course.

It’s not scary, we continue to develop, it happens. The main thing is not to scold yourself. Do the exercise “Mistake!”, Smile, write your achievement in your notebook of success: “I didn’t scold myself, calmly returned to the previous format.”