I have been planning this work for a long time — since the very time we wrote The Ability to Love, one of the tasks of which was to write Twenty Manifestations of Love for a Woman. It turned out to be a great assignment — very creative and inspiring. The series about my daughter turned out to be just as interesting and useful — I recommend it to everyone who has children. And for those who will — even more so)).
Need to say. after thinking about the task “Asian and European education”, as well as watching the film “Yours, mine and ours” with comments, NO information was added to the reflection — which, in fact, helped the work to finally take shape.
So — twenty manifestations of love for the daughter. He started, of course, like a normal dad, with maternal love)). However, he also didn’t forget about his father’s, in the end it turned out 10 by 10.
- Tell your daughter that I love her and respond to her words of love.
- Set aside at least 30 minutes a day for communication in various forms.
- Respond to requests for help if there is time for this, and help is really needed.
- Watch your speech in communication — give only positive suggestions. After NLP and Erickson, you especially clearly understand how important this is!
- Know what your daughter likes, and from time to time buy it for her just like that, a surprise.
- Cooking her favorite dishes from time to time is best with her.
- Call and write from business trips to her.
- Celebrate and encourage the results of her work and creativity, give positive developmental feedback.
- Give enough physical contact — hugs, touches.
- Sincerely be interested in her affairs, mood, well-being, plans. Remember the answers.
- Teach your daughter the skills of housekeeping, maintaining order ..
- Gently, but persistently and regularly enforce the rules adopted in the family.
- Teach the rules and skills of communication with peers and adults.
- Help in choosing an occupation of interest and in the occupation of this occupation)).
- Get regular physical activity and good posture.
- Help develop the habit of proper nutrition, monitor compliance with a healthy diet.
- To form a healthy system of life values, to motivate for harmonious development.
- To form an artistic taste, to influence the choice of books, films, music, television programs. Sing good songs together.
- Monitor your daughter’s use of the computer and the Internet.
- Teach proper rest, help organize it.
Once again, I note that the task is extremely useful precisely by the very process of its creation. Therefore, if the idea seemed worthwhile to you, do not rewrite my list. Sit down and think about yours.
I think this exercise will also be useful in conducting consultations on the relationship between children and parents — it makes parents think and provides extensive diagnostic information to the consultant.
I will be glad to comments, feedback and suggestions on the topic.
Video from Yana Shchastya: interview with professor of psychology N.I. Kozlov
Topics of conversation: What kind of woman do you need to be in order to successfully marry? How many times do men get married? Why are there so few normal men? Childfree. Parenting. What is love? A story that couldn’t be better. Paying for the opportunity to be close to a beautiful woman.