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Hello everybody! During communication between people there is a mutual exchange of energy, they give something, they receive something. Such a balanced contact advances us in development, gives a feeling of joy, fullness and arouses the desire for new meetings. But when this process is violated, and only one gives, and the other receives, an imbalance arises, which “popularly” is called vampirism, and it may well even lead to the death of a person. But, fortunately, there is also protection from energy vampires, and I will tell you about it today so that you can protect yourself and loved ones from «using» others.
Evidence
In order not to “specify” someone in vain, you should be able to distinguish whether a person really empathizes with you or sincerely shares his problems, or still draws strength from you. Otherwise, by deciding to end the relationship, you risk losing a close friend, colleague, or even relative. Be attentive to your feelings. And then there will be no difficulties in how to recognize the one who harms you. So you can safely defend yourself if you consistently notice the following after contact with a certain person:
- You feel weakness, dizziness, desire to sleep and rest, although before the meeting you were vigorous and active.
- There is a painful and sticky feeling of helplessness, confusion and oppression.
- Suddenly there is a feeling of inner emptiness.
- Your head may start to hurt or your “weak spot”, that is, a part of the body or organ that periodically bothers you and requires medical intervention, may make itself felt. This is due to the fact that the energy is declining, and the body can not cope with all the processes without it. Sometimes the subconscious, in this way, tries to pay attention to what is happening, with the help of pain to «get through» to you.
- The limbs become cold, a tremor appears in the hands.
- There is a suspicion that you are being «led by the nose», especially when signs of manipulation become obvious.
- During communication, there is a feeling that the whole body is “burning”, the face turns red.
- Within a few hours, there is a complete absence of bright and strong emotions.
Types
To begin with, let’s clarify that energy vampires are conscious and unconscious. Therefore, you should not immediately “throw stones at them”, after all, it is worth understanding the nature of such behavior. For example, an unconscious vampire is a person who, due to some circumstances, has lost his footing and needs care, taking away your strength. He most often does not understand what discomfort he causes you, and sincerely wishing you well, periodically “feeds” on you.
It could be a friend who is going through a breakup with a loved one and terrorizing you with stories about her thoughts, feelings, and more. And it may turn out to be even closer — your own child, requiring attention and not able to recover on its own. Or a sick relative who needs constant care, because the care of parents and grandparents usually lies on the shoulders of the younger generation.
The situation is more serious with conscious manipulators and tyrants, because they understand the harm that is being done to you, and still continue to do it without feeling pity or compassion. The situation becomes more complicated if such a person is a family member or an employee at work, because it will not work to completely stop communication. Understanding that there is someone nearby who wants to take away your vitality by causing harm is already capable of causing anxiety.
So, directly the types of conscious «bloodsuckers»
- insinuating. He will act very carefully and carefully, wanting to «sleep» the vigilance of the victim. And he will do this with the help of obsessive, sometimes out of place, touches. Soft, but persistent attempts to «get into your soul.» It is easy to calculate it, since such behavior will cause bewilderment and unwillingness to open up, which, in principle, is correct in dealing with such people.
- Manipulator — this is already a more difficult level, because it may well seem like a nice and interesting interlocutor, unobtrusively provoking you into a confidential conversation with the help of a sympathetic and understanding person, involvement in your problem and a whole arsenal of advice. The only difference between normal communication is that after meeting with it, there is no emotional uplift, inspiration, saturation and satisfaction, but on the contrary, it gets even worse.
- Provocator. The most dangerous type, especially for vulnerable people, or who are not currently in the resource, that is, they have difficulties and are weakened. It is not difficult to recognize him by aggressiveness, even passive. That is, when, with his words and behavior, a person provokes anger to such an extent that his interlocutor cannot stand it and “explodes”, turning into the role of a tyrant for others. Banal methods — insults, attempts to get «in a sore spot», remarks, depreciation and the like.
Top 10 ways to fight
1. Recognition
The very first method of protection will be the ability to recognize such people. After all, you know, as they say: «He who is warned is armed.» And indeed, by recognizing the manipulation in time, you will protect yourself from its consequences. I recommend reading this article in order to learn how to notice insincerity and aggression in gestures and facial expressions.
2. Change of focus
If suddenly it happens that you are terrorized by a family member whom you love, for example, a husband, brother, parents. Then try to organize another donor to switch attention and give yourself the opportunity to recover. Nothing complicated, you just need to buy an aquarium with fish, get pets, put a flower in the room that requires attention and care, if possible, organize training and walks in nature for such a person. Then he will begin to receive energy from other sources, restoring the balance on his own, without your fate.
3. Humor
I have told you more than once that laughter is the best therapy, so try to turn the aggressor’s attempts to “unsettle” you into humor. In addition to the fact that this will ensure the safety of your well-being, it will also “infuriate” the provocateur, because of which he will experience all the consequences of his vampirism, preferring not to mess with you anymore. If you heard an insult addressed to you, confirm it by saying: “Yes, I am like that, but also ….”, believe me, this will disarm the aggressor and leave no opportunity to continue provocations.
4. Ignore method
You are insulted just so that you lose your balance, in order to «hook» and hurt. And if you start to react, you will give away most of the accumulated energy. And why do you need it? At such moments, it is necessary, as it were, to become deaf, especially if the manipulator gives out a stream of information that tires you. You can mentally turn off the sound, watching his facial expressions. After some time, he will get tired of it, and then, having made a few more attempts, he will leave you alone.
5. Internet vampirism
There are times when people manage to achieve their goal at a distance, depriving another of energy. A particularly fertile ground for this is the Internet. Even there are so-called trolls. If possible, limit correspondence with such people by blocking or deleting them from friends. Realize that you won’t be able to prove your case to such people, if only because their main goal is to hook you to the living, then enjoying a storm of indignation and the knowledge that you “pecked”.
6.”Whiners”
Everyone has people around them who are constantly suffering and suffering. Moreover, they are able to talk for hours about their troubles, pretty tiring others, and so much so that by the end of the conversation it becomes not clear which of you suffers more. And no matter what advice you give, they still will not listen to them, because they really like to experience torment, receive attention and care.
To save energy, listen to the suffering speeches a little, and instead of the usual pity and sympathy, ask: “What is good in your life?”. Such a technique will help not only in the question of how to get rid of the manipulator, but also, perhaps, will give impetus to its development, which will subsequently make meetings more pleasant.
7. «Counter-attack»
Try to tell yourself a long, sad and boring story from your own life, or friends and relatives. You can even come up with something on the go, slowing it down a bit to make it less interesting. Then the vampire will stop seeing you as a victim, eventually switching to another donor. To be more tactful, for a minute just say, “Oh, that reminds me of a story…”
8. Water
If it so happened that you fell under the influence and now do not feel well, then there is one great remedy that will return your energy — water. It is able to cleanse not only the body, but also wash away any negativity received during the day. So just take a shower until you feel yourself getting better.
9. What to do with loved ones?
The situation is more complicated when you are “fueled” in the family and there is no way to avoid contact. And if you constantly ignore the stories of your loved ones, it will alienate you even more from each other. The only way you can protect yourself is to strengthen your energy in the morning, and again, with the help of water. It is necessary to organize for yourself something similar to a contrast shower.
Stand for 10 minutes under hot water, and then abruptly turn on the cold one. It turns out that at first you accumulate warmth inside yourself, which will remain with you, because the skin integuments will sharply narrow when exposed to cold. In addition, in addition to protection, you will thus strengthen your health, prepare for a busy day and many other benefits described here.
10. Recovery methods
There are other ways to recover — spend more time in nature, contact with the earth, plants and animals has a very positive effect on well-being. Start practicing yoga, it strengthens energy, breathing techniques and meditation bring harmony back to life, and then you don’t care about those who are rude in line, call names in the store and generally complain about life.
Conclusion
If you engage in your self-development, you will become a conscious person who is able to take responsibility for your life, you will have a healthy self-esteem, which means that there will be practically no “weak points”, at least obvious to others. And then the energy vampires will eventually become uninteresting in you, they will begin to look for other victims that can be manipulated by them. And then you don’t have to think about how to resist them. Subscribe to site updates, every couple of weeks I send out the best articles on self-development. And that’s all for today! Be vigilant and take care of yourself.