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Hello, dear readers of Valery Kharlamov’s blog! A positive attitude allows a person to easily overcome life’s troubles, it motivates and inspires, pleases, amuses and makes you feel better. People who are able to see the beautiful and positive even in small things experience much more satisfaction from life than pessimists.
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1. Morning practices
When you open your eyes in the morning, what is the first thing that happens? Are you frustrated that morning has already come, but you couldn’t get enough sleep? Or is it time for work? Maybe you immediately grab your phone to find out the news about the events that happened while you were sleeping?
If at least one of the above takes place, then think about where to get a good mood? How to draw energy from painful and sad thoughts? Where do you get the excitement and interest in how today will turn out and what new things it will bring?
So, make it a rule, when you wake up, talk to yourself about something good that will cause a smile and a desire to get out of bed. Such a mandatory morning reception of necessary procedures, such as breakfast, brushing your teeth or showering.
If you don’t know where to start, try these phrases: “Today is an amazing day, and I believe that something good will happen to me. Thanks to the Universe (Jesus, Allah, in general, who or what I want to thank) for the opportunity to see the sun’s rays, hug loved ones, smell my favorite bun, and in general, for the fact that I am alive and can enjoy this day.
Then, in front of a mirror, repeat affirmations to give confidence in your abilities, set yourself up for success, and so on. So you will only enhance the effect. If you don’t know what kind of method this is, then it’s okay, check out this article.
2. Endorphins
Hormones of joy, significantly cheer up. And you can get them by eating a piece of chocolate or doing sports. It is not recommended to abuse chocolate, otherwise the effect may be just the opposite, especially for women, when extra pounds increase, unless, of course, they are undesirable.
The best way to increase the level of these hormones is running, with its help you will also relieve tension, cope with anxiety and anger, so later, during relaxation, you will experience pleasant sensations, as well as pride in having mastered the workout. And an additional bonus will be a toned figure and good health.
By the way, the main thing is not to overdo it, so as not to weaken yourself, depriving you of all energy. If for some reason you can’t run, go to the pool, the effect is the same, plus take the extra load off your spine by swimming on your back.
3. Talismans
Surround yourself with things that cause laughter, joy, and other pleasant feelings. For example, get a funny cup, a calendar with your favorite cats or ferrets, put in a visible place a frame with a photo where you are depicted happy … It is important that when looking around, you feel like smiling.
The more often you remember pleasant situations, the more often you will experience tenderness, touchingness, and so on. As soon as you notice that you have stopped responding, replace the photos with more recent ones, or, conversely, from the archive, then, telling the guests the story of their creation, you will re-live that moment that is so significant for you.
4. Set to positive
Set yourself the task of finding positive, resourceful moments even in unpleasant events. Yes, life is complicated and constantly throws up surprises, no one in this world can afford to relax, being sure that nothing bad will happen to him. Stress and problems are constant daily companions of a living person. Yes, it is alive, therefore, coping with one difficulty, be sure that a new one will arise a little later.
And the difference between optimists and pessimists is how they feel about their lives. Even in a drop of morning dew, you can find the reason for a good mood, as well as get upset when you receive the wrong gift that you wanted. It is our attitude to any events that determines the level of satisfaction with life.
Therefore, if you are used to devaluing, exaggerating and escalating, ask yourself why do you need this? Why did you decide to complicate your life? After that, in some cases even forcibly, sit down and write down at least 10 points, where you indicate the resources and opportunities that the past day gave.
Even if you found out that your loved one betrayed you, would it be better to live with him further, not suspecting that he does not appreciate you or what he is capable of? Learn to transform events into positive ones, then over time, you will do it unconsciously, changing your attitude towards life itself.
5. Will Bowen Method
It consists in the fact that for 21 days a person refuses criticism, negativity, complaints, quarrels, and so on. He will have to control himself every time when, out of habit, he wants to be rude or shout. So first, come up with a reward that motivates you to complete the conditions of this technique, and then put a bracelet on your hand. The description of the exercise says that the bracelet should be purple, but I want to note that this is not so important.
Better concentrate on changing your worldview and thinking, starting to appreciate every moment. If you still break the rules by falling on a child, a colleague, an unfamiliar seller in a store, or just think about the bad — move this bracelet to the other hand and reset the result, even if you managed to withstand 20 days, then start the countdown again.
6. Treat yourself every day
Otherwise, you will lose the taste of life, experiencing only stress. Even if you have to save on everything, allow yourself to buy at least some little thing, without postponing for later that I suddenly pay off my debts, or earn a lot, a lot, that’s when … If there is no free time, find at least half an hour to do something desirable, not just useful and necessary. Live here and now, not in the past or dreams of the future, this is very important.
So, after reading the article, think about what you want at the moment, and go get it. Then a good mood will be provided. It is only important to take into account the reality of the realization of desire, it won’t work like that to take it and be on the other side of the world, but it’s easy to rejoice like a child, kicking fallen leaves with your feet, or drinking a cup of delicious coffee. An article about how to live here and now will help you.
7. Surround yourself with fun people
Then you will unconsciously learn from them the experience of responding to different situations. Yes, sometimes we just don’t know how to relate to some event, and then we choose the usual way. But for this, other people in our lives are given to help find a more attractive and optimal way, to teach something and “open” our eyes to the obvious.
8. Humor
Train not only the brain, but also a sense of humor, especially if you are deprived of it. You can do this by reading jokes, funny stories, stories. Switching attention to positive events is relaxing, and laughter relieves tension, in some cases helping with painful sensations. Joke with friends, close people, just be careful in using sarcasm so as not to destroy relationships.
9. Smile
Psychology is an interesting science that has discovered that a person is able to influence his well-being with the help of quite simple tricks, for example, a smile. Yes, by smiling, you will “reconfigure” your consciousness to the positive, involuntarily starting to really experience pleasant emotions. You can learn more about such processes from the article here.
10. Memories
Close your eyes and imagine some episode in your life when you were happy. Try to reproduce all the nuances, remember the sensations, thoughts that arose at that moment. Even in therapy with couples who are in crisis on the verge of divorce, a similar exercise is offered.
But because it is effective, and allows you to «get out of the mezzanine» long-forgotten knowledge about yourself, moments that used to give vigor and allow you to believe in good. Therefore, couples, talking about how they met, met, what conquered them in each other, and so on, re-live the emotions that arose 5-10 or even 30 years ago.
Conclusion
And that’s all for today, dear readers! Being always positive is difficult, but quite real, just do not forget that you have only one life, and spending it thinking only about problems is too wasteful. Luck accompanies people who are able to notice and appreciate it. So success to you, accomplishments and, of course, good mood!
PS I recommend that you watch my selection of good films that will cheer you up.