TOP 10 Methods for Forming Human Communication Skills

Good day to all! In the article “What are human communication skills and why they are vital”, I talked about what communication is and its significance for every person. After all, the foundation is laid in childhood, depending on the situation in the family and living conditions that the child is not able to control and regulate. Therefore, already in adulthood, he is quite capable of independently filling in the gaps with the help of self-development. And today I decided to share recommendations on how to develop communication skills in an adult who has consciously decided to improve the quality of his life.

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1. Learn to notice reality and who you are communicating with

Have you ever been in situations when you are no longer interested, and the person keeps talking and talking, not paying attention to the fact that you no longer even look at him? After all, after this, there is no desire to meet with him again, right? And it is important to take into account not only the feedback of the interlocutor, but also the environment in which you are. You can gradually develop mindfulness in yourself by doing the following exercise every day:

• Sit comfortably and try to concentrate only on what you hear. It will take a couple of minutes to complete. At first, just noise will be heard, and then you will begin to isolate individual sounds and understand where they come from.
• The next step is to put all your attention on what you see. Mentally mark each object, whether it be a chair or a stubborn carnation.
• Now for a couple of minutes, concentrate on your feelings and thoughts. Feel every part of the body, pay attention to every thought that arises in the head.

This exercise develops the ability to notice details, the other person and yourself in contact with him. After all, the formation of close and trusting relationships is impossible when you don’t really hear and don’t notice your partner. And so that invisible line will be unconsciously felt when you realize that you need to remain silent or take a break, or vice versa, that it is time to actively engage in a conversation.

2. Read books to broaden your horizons

This, in addition to new knowledge, will contribute to the memorization of new words and the ability to build grammatically correct sentences. You can support any conversation, or, in extreme cases, translate into a topic in which you are well versed. After reading a book, try to retell it briefly by recording yourself on a tape recorder. While listening, pay attention to how you pause, which parasitic words are most common, and how your speech sounds in general. What would you like to change to make listening more interesting and enjoyable?

Considering all the nuances, practice and try again until the result satisfies you. Thus, the formation of competent and clean speech will take place, which plays a huge role in the communication process.

3. Body language

If you have read my article “What is non-verbal communication and how to recognize the emotional state of a person”, then you know that body language sometimes displays up to 90% of information about our state and attitude towards another person. Therefore, in addition to the quality of speech, you should learn to track your postures and gestures so that they do not unconsciously repel other people. And for this, at the moment when you are recording your retelling of the book you have read on the recorder, sit in front of the mirror and carefully observe your gestures.

Try to feel if your position is comfortable and try to change it to another, listening to internal changes. Learn what gestures are endearing and open, and try to use them as often as possible. Practice smiling in front of a mirror so that it doesn’t look artificial or grinning, but rather pleasant. Try to smile as often as possible, and over time you will notice how your inner mood and your attitude to life change.

4. Exercise «Reincarnation»

Think of your favorite character from a fairy tale, cartoon, movie, or just someone you want to be like. Remember in detail everything that attracts you so much in him, and enter the image, trying to reproduce his character. Walk around the room, telling something with his intonation and demeanor, using the same gestures, look, words. Feel yourself in a completely different role, and then write down your thoughts and feelings on a sheet. In the future, you may well rely on them, remembering the past role.

5. Fantasizing about a stranger

When you are in a public place, pick one person and try to come up with their life story. What is his character, how does he live, how does he laugh, who does he work with and how does he build relationships? Turn away and remember his facial features, what he is wearing, and then look and check what you missed in the image.

6. Attend exhibitions, any cultural events, go to museums

Being in such places, it will simply be impossible not to strike up even the most casual conversation with someone. Just try asking someone for their opinion on the exposure, or share your admiration or other reaction to the painting. And so each time there will be more and more experience in building a conversation, your feelings.

In addition to the fact that it will help expand your horizons and raise your self-esteem, it will also increase your interest in life, because creativity inspires and helps you unlock your potential. If exhibitions and museums are not interesting, go in for some kind of sport. This is very close and helps to find like-minded people with whom it is much easier to start a conversation.

7. Practice and not hone your skills

For example, set yourself the task of meeting a new person every day. There may be a lot of fear and anxiety at first, this is normal. But day after day, following this rule, you will begin to notice that you are already starting to react differently, that excitement overlaps interest in another person, sincere interest in him. So do not be afraid to take risks, act.

8. Feeling confident

After all, if in a conversation you fall silent, not daring to express your point of view, you are unlikely to be considered a sociable and interesting person. Develop your self-esteem, discover your strengths in yourself that you can present to others, respect yourself, your opinion and value your own time, then others will feel it without ignoring you. You can read my article, in which I laid out detailed techniques for increasing self-esteem «The best methods for achieving success that will help you finally believe in yourself.»

9. Learn to listen to the interlocutor without interrupting him

In this way, you can win him over, giving him space to speak, get more information about him, and also keep track of what mistakes he makes in a conversation so as not to repeat them with other people. Tracking your reaction to his behavior, you will understand how you yourself look in the eyes of others, perhaps you will adopt any gestures or words that interest you.

10. Note the similarities with the interlocutor and your differences

This will contribute to the acceptance and respect of someone else’s point of view, otherwise conflicts, feelings of irritation and unwillingness to communicate will be your constant companions. We are all different, with different experiences, thoughts, and it is necessary to be able to be in contact with another person, despite the difference in views. Learn to respect not only yourself, but also other people, giving them the right to think differently from you, but at the same time stay close. If you disagree with something, it is not necessary to tell the interlocutor that he is wrong or does not understand something, but simply say that you have a slightly different opinion on this matter, due to the fact that you have lived a different experience. Your task is to find common ground, and not vice versa, to prove your superiority.

Conclusion

That’s all, dear readers of my blog! The most important thing is the presence of motivation and desire, then there will be no difficulties in mastering the science of communication and searching for answers to the question of how to become sociable. Take risks, try, fight your fears, and then completely new horizons of opportunities will open before you.

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