Time for a new start: what to think about at 35?

By the age of 35-40, we think about how to create a balance between all areas of life: relationships, career, children, self-development … Since our resources are limited and now it is very clear, we come to a logical conclusion: if we dive headlong into one thing , the other will suffer. And the question arises: “How to keep up with everything that is really important?”

What dilemmas do we face?

How do you balance career and parenting?

35-40 years old is the time when new opportunities at work usually open up for us. We are boldly sent on business trips, we are entrusted with complex projects that require a lot of time and attention. On the other hand, we may have children who need help with homework, taking them to a matinee or treating them for a cold.

“How to maintain a relationship with a partner?”

And how to maintain passion in a relationship, showing love and care for a partner, if children and work take all our energy?

“And who is this grown-up me?”

By this age, parental attitudes stop working – and now we need to formulate our own principles that will help build a future life. In addition, by the age of 40, our first and even second education may become obsolete. Therefore, we think: “And if I continue to improve in my professional activities, will I definitely achieve great results in it? What else do I want to learn?

Our doubts at 35-40 years old – is it a crisis or a new trigger? It is impossible to answer this question: it all depends on how we ourselves perceive what is happening. But this is definitely a time of questions that will be followed by important answers.

What to ask yourself?

In order to sum up the previous 10-15 years of life and think about what you want to fill the next decades with, it is worth talking honestly with yourself on various topics.

Career

• What colleagues and employees will inspire and surround you?
• What principles should they follow?
• Which projects make you happy and give you strength, and which only take away your internal resources?

Relations

• Which old friends do you want to take with you into the next part of your life, and which ones have you outgrown?
• What do you want to be in a relationship with a partner?
• How do you see your partner?

Health

• How long ago did you have a medical examination?
• What doctor have you wanted to see for a long time, but never got around to?
• What kind of physical activity can not only keep your body in good condition, but also bring you joy?

Appearance

• What image reflects your inner state?
• Do you want to be bright, beautiful, cute, graceful or brutal? 35-40 years is the time when a woman can say to herself: “Yes! Maybe not like the others.”

Finance

• How to distribute finances so that your standard of living does not suffer after retirement?

Dreams

Check your wish list. Which of them are still relevant, and which are outdated? Try to do them one by one: not for something or someone, but only for yourself. To tick the box and say, “I did it, and now I have the experience of what it’s like to set aside time, money, organize leisure and fulfill my dream.”

Try to formulate questions without value judgment and with love for yourself. And try every birthday to conduct a full audit of all areas of your life. Praise yourself for what you have already done – and forward to new achievements!

What results can you expect?

One woman came to me with this request: she wanted to work less, but earn more. One of the things we worked on was learning how to delegate at work, as well as support my husband so that he feels the respect that comes from the family and can pursue his career.

Thanks to the analysis of values, principles of life and attitudes, she managed to hear her true “I want” and find the necessary solution. The woman sold her company, went on maternity leave and mastered a profession that is completely unrelated to the area in which she worked before.

Another client, whose interests were mainly focused on her career and children, decided to organize her own women’s club of interests – with travel, trips to the spa. She began by creating a schedule that took into account her deadlines and the deadlines of those who wanted to join the club. As a result, the client was able to develop and improve the area of ​​her life that she called “personal and emotional communication” in her session request.

What awaits us then?

35-40 years is the age of the global “can”. You can look how you want, work where you want, and with those you like. Choose friends you enjoy being with. If you start checking your plans and goals every year and take an inventory of your “wants”, then we will perfectly pump the skill of introspection. And we will meet maturity full of energy and strength.