I talk to parents of preschoolers and even older children: almost every first one mentions “problems with feeding” or “not eating normal food”. Moreover, the children are different: from thin people to those whose cheeks do not fit into the photo.
I start asking questions. It turns out that, according to many parents, there is a certain norm of healthy food that the child must eat. They do not set themselves the task of satisfying the healthy appetite of the child. For many modern kids, a healthy appetite is a luxury! Parents see it as their task to tamp the child with healthy food so that:
a) too much unhealthy food simply did not fit into the child, which he, together with the whole family, will go to “catch up” after they stop stuffing the “useful” into him.
b) so that in no case does he want to eat for X hours (here they call a period of time convenient for parents).
Dear parents, such tasks have been solved much easier from time immemorial!
1) Think about where the child takes food that is not useful, from the point of view of his own parents, and even regularly?
Most often from this very vase with cookies. When he gets older, he buys himself in a stall with pocket money.
And don’t give a damn! “How can he learn four lessons without a lollipop?! So what if you can buy breakfast and lunch at school through the teacher. All the same, he hardly eats them, ”the parents are worried. And the child is really used to squeamishly poking around in a plate, used to snacking on sweets and fast food. How will he grow up with such habits? Tolstoy? With a frozen, squeamishly sad expression on his face? Maybe it’s time for a change?
Yes, I know that this vase is not for him, but for you … But if you care a little about the health and future of the child, throw out this vase already! Or at least the content. It is better to put a couple of apples there if «the soul does not tolerate emptiness.»
2) Remember, wanting to eat is NORMAL! If a child wants to eat an hour and a half before dinner, let him want to. Anyone who tells you that this is at least somewhat “harmful” is greatly mistaken. Want to eat? Rejoice! Healthy appetite is restored.
When you sit down at the table, give your child the bare minimum so that he can eat with pleasure. Add an additive only if he politely asks, clarifying: “Do you eat that much? Right? Let’s better put half, then I’ll add if you eat and want more. ”
Calculate for yourself how many “hares you kill” by stopping stuffing your child with food and allowing a healthy appetite to wake up:
a) the child eats on his own, quickly and cheerfully (even if not from the first day — let him get used to it for a week);
b) there is no longer any need to puzzle over how much food he needs: how much a child with a healthy appetite will eat, that’s how much he needs;
c) the child learns politely from his mother to ask for, for example, an additive (in case of impolite treatment, instead of an additive, we kindly inform you that you need to ask politely);
d) the child learns to sincerely thank for food (it is difficult to thank from the bottom of my heart for something that was forced into you).
So, we give the child only a little healthy food, we give out the supplement only if he asks himself and also a little. Fruit in a bowl. There is peace in the soul, because the healthy appetite of children is their health for many years.
How? Are you still sitting and reading??! And this is instead of getting up and throwing away all these cookies, for example, to the birds? Guests will come — there are five steps from the door to the store. A week or two of “breaking” for you and the kids, but then a fun and slender tomorrow for the whole family! 🙂
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