Poles wait a few years before using a sexologist. Only 7 percent. decides to make such a visit. On the other hand, many try to buy potency drugs on the black market.
Many people do not know if their sex life is satisfactory, how often and for how long they should have sex. Based on various statistics, the world average for a statistical landowner is 96 annually. Americans have sex 132 times a year, s 122 times, French 121 and Poles 91 times a year. The Japanese are the least likely to do it 37 times a year. So when can it be concluded that our sex life requires specialist intervention
A visit to a sexologist
Sexologists say that if a man has an erection problem during intercourse, he should see a doctor. If this happens sporadically and the man has a so-called morning erection, no need to panic. However, when this happens regularly for more than a month, it is worth seeking help. All women who are not satisfied with sex should seek the help of a sexologist. Meanwhile, Poles do not go to a specialist in bed problems. They prefer to buy potency medications on the Internet, which, if taken without consulting a doctor, can even lead to a collapse. – For a man, coming to a sexologist’s office is an admission of failure. Everyone would like to see themselves as the proverbial macho, and this undoubtedly contradicts the need for treatment due to sexual dysfunction – says the sexologist, MD. med. Ewa Zarudzka. Women, on the other hand, are ready to have unsatisfied sex in order to maintain their relationship with their partner. – Many women live in relationships with a partner without paying attention to the quality of their sex life. They ask for advice only when the relationship fails, when the sense of security related to the possibility of losing a partner is disturbed – says the sexologist.
Successful sex life
Meanwhile, unresolved problems keep getting worse. Sexologists emphasize that a successful sex life in a relationship is a very valuable experience that cement it and does not allow boredom and stereotypes to creep in. Both mental and health problems require quick intervention. If a couple fails several relationships due to a health condition, even though it will pass, the fear of failure can paralyze the partners. A man may be afraid of another failure, and the woman will try to avoid an unpleasant situation for her. If, on the other hand, the indisposition is due to health reasons, the sooner treatment is started, the better. Sometimes problems can be solved quickly. The cause of failure may be, for example, narrowing of the foreskin, making it difficult or impossible to remove it from the glans, and in women, excessive vaginal dryness. It also happens that erection problems are the result of circulatory diseases, and low libido in women is the result of hypothyroidism. All of these situations require treatment.
Sexological examination
– Often, when registering for an appointment, patients ask me how it will proceed, will they be examined? – says the drug. med. Ewa Zarudzka. She explains that if the sexologist is a doctor, you have to take into account that if there are indications for it, patients will be examined. Sexological examination consists of the same elements as each visit to the doctor, i.e. an interview, physical examination, additional examinations, diagnosis and treatment. During the initial conversation, the problem with which the patient reports is specified. A sexologist may ask when the indisposition appeared, does it occur continuously or periodically? He may ask you to share your past sexual experiences. Additional information that is valuable in making a diagnosis may relate to the partner’s or partner’s feelings. – Unfortunately, I am sorry to say that hardly any man knows if his partner has an orgasm and what kind of orgasm. But why? Because they do not talk to each other about “such” matters – says Ewa Zarudzka.
Diseases, the process of prior treatment, currently used medications, surgeries, and previous injuries are also important for the diagnosis. – It is best to attend an appointment with medical records of past illnesses, because patients often do not fully know what they really were, what they were treated with. If someone is currently taking any medications, he should bring a list of them, which he can easily make at home. In the office, it is often difficult to reconstruct the names of the preparations used under the influence of stress and emotions – advises the medicine. med. Ewa Zarudzka. This information is extremely valuable because many drugs have a side effect on potency and libido, both in men and women.
If the doctor deems it appropriate, he may order additional tests. Men may have to visit a urologist, ultrasound of the testicles and prostate, while women will see a gynecologist. It is possible that you will also need blood tests: blood count, cholesterol, sugar or hormone levels.
Therapy with a sexologist
If the problems are due to a medical condition, starting treatment will be the solution. A sexologist can also prescribe a number of measures to help men get an erection. If the failures are psychological, they will require longer therapy, sometimes even a year.
– It should be remembered that the condition of successful therapy is honesty in contact with the doctor. The doctor is confidential, which means that all information obtained from the patient during his visit to the office is confidential, even when a couple comes forward. Unless both partners wish to be together during the conversation, and not consecutively – emphasizes the drug. med. Ewa Zarudzka. He adds that many patients give up the possibility of getting help and are still stuck in unresolved problems. These worsen over time, and the only cure for all evil turns out to be parting – often extremely painful. – In Western countries, it is good to attend therapy sessions with your psychoanalyst, and going to a psychiatrist or psychologist does not mean that you are “crazy”. In Poland, fear and anxiety still rule in smaller cities. Over the years of my work, I can say that this unfavorable phenomenon is changing, it is happening slowly, but it is still getting better. People instinctively strive for happiness, and the feeling of happiness can also be derived from successful partner relationships – says Ewa Zarudzka, MD, PhD.
Text: Halina Pilonis