These are the reasons why it is difficult for a woman to reach orgasm

These are the reasons why it is difficult for a woman to reach orgasm

Female Orgasm Day

The fact that women take longer to reach orgasm is nothing more than a myth …

These are the reasons why it is difficult for a woman to reach orgasm

El female orgasm is essential for sexual well-being and women’s happiness but, did you know that 87% of these need stimulation of the clitoris to reach orgasm and double vaginal / clitoral stimulation? This is confirmed by the data of the study carried out on more than 9000 people carried out by Diversual, the online store of erotic toys. In addition, more than 60% of Spanish women admit that they have difficulties reaching orgasm. That is 6 out of 10 Spanish women.

The first thing is to understand what orgasm consists of (in case someone is still not clear about it). According to the Elsevier scientific dissemination platform, orgasm or climax is “the sudden discharge of accumulated sexual tension,

 during the sexual response cycle, resulting in rhythmic muscle contractions in the pelvic region, characterized by the sexual pleasure“And how many times have we heard that” girls take longer. “

For Nayara Malnero, an expert psychologist and sexologist, what women take longer to reach orgasm It is nothing more than a myth: “Women not only have body structures similar to those of men, but also our clitoris has more nerve endings than the penis,” says the sexologist. In short, if we stick to biological evidence … Women can achieve orgasm faster!

“Many women are shy about masturbating and this is the real reason why they do not enjoy sex as much as they could”
Nayara Malnero , Psychologist and sexologist

Sex education

If we add to this that, in general terms, most women have a very depressing sex ed (Sexologists call it “castrating”), there is a great ignorance of both our anatomy of pleasure and self-esteem and skills for intimate communication. «Sexual health is closely linked to emotional well-being; In this context, it is worrying to observe the latest data from Control, brand on sexual well-being specialist in condoms, massage gels, lubricants and sex toys, who point out that the 62,5% of Spanish women they have felt uncomfortable during sexual activity as a result of insecurities in their body.

“Sexual health is closely linked to emotional well-being”
Nayara Malnero , Psychologist and sexologist

According to the psychologist, therefore, “women do not have more difficulties than men either to get excited or to achieve orgasm.” But it is clear that, if we do not do what we like, it is impossible for us to develop our full potential. «They have brought us up in a male model and it doesn’t work for us. Without going any further, the latest Control barometer reflects very well the sexual reality of Spanish women: while 31,3% of men claim to take the initiative when it comes to practicing sexual intercourse, only 8,7% of women initiate sex “, he indicates.

In addition, as the expert says, many women, for example, have modesty to masturbate or to learn about sexuality and “this is the real reason why they don’t enjoy sex as much as they could.” Therapists see, in fact, how when women discover themselves and learn to communicate “their sexual satisfaction it multiplies”.

70% of those interviewed by Control recognize that sex education should address masturbation, which, in short, will allow us “to know and accept ourselves, as well as to start doing what really satisfies us is the beginning to break this statistic” .

Forms of stimulation

Whether you are a man or a woman, female stimulation you are interested. Nayara Malnero recognizes that it is very easy to achieve orgasm because you just have to do “what each one likes.” “The problem has always been that they have told us what to do and we have attacked … I will not be the one to perpetuate this obviously failed strategy,” she says. It is important to note, for example, that as the Control data indicates, almost 9 out of 10 women (88,2%) admit to having used a sex toy: «It is no coincidence that, of them, 28,6% affirm that this has a positive impact on their sexual relationships.

Finally, the psychologist and sexologist assures that the clitoris is the “only organ of the human body whose only function is pleasure.” So much so that, according to the latest Control barometer, more than 54% of Spanish women reach more than one orgasm during the same sexual relationship, compared to only 32% of men. «In addition, we must remember that men have no clitoris, so that we are the only owners and responsible for our pleasure, “he says.

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