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😉 Greetings to my regular and new readers! In the article “The role of men and women in the family: who is in charge?” the topic of the family budget will be touched upon and what the picture looks like when the husband gives all the money to his wife.
Family roles
It has long been the case that everyone in the family has a role to play. Nobody assigned these roles to people by directive. In the process of human development, people have empirically found out what women do better and what men do.
The weaker sex is responsible for the home, comfort, raising children and, in general, for the atmosphere in the house. The stronger sex is the defender leading the whole family. He is the main and responsible one. That is why He should create the family budget.
Money gives confidence in the future. Who, if not a man, will create this confidence? And if a woman is engaged in this, as best she can, then who will deal with the home atmosphere and children? This in the family is as important a task as earning money.
A man will never be able to create a home as cozy as his spouse can. Yes, she can do what she loves that brings some income, but she should not have the responsibility to provide for the family.
In this case, the woman herself will allocate her time so that it is enough for both home and hobbies. From this conclusion: in the family, the spouse performs his functions, and the spouse – hers. This is the only correct way to create a happy family union.
The classic version: the husband is the breadwinner, the wife is the keeper of the family hearth
The classic version: the husband is the only earner. In such a family, it is established that the spouse gives all the finances to the spouse, and she distributes them to the household. Including for the individual needs of the earner.
That is, if he needs to buy, for example, a new battery for the car, he has to come up and ask his wife for money. This is absurd: the man himself earned this money, and then he has to beg for it?
There are several more points that explain why it is impossible to take all the cash from the faithful and give it out on demand.
Head of family
He is the head of the family. It is for this reason that He earns, and not she. He is a man: strong, independent and able to provide for his family.
What happens when the wife takes all the money?
She becomes the main one. Despite the fact that from the outside it seems that the distribution of family roles here is correct, this is not so. He makes money precisely because he is the leader.
As soon as the faithful begins to take away all the “piastres” from him, male dominance disappears, the head gives up his position and becomes a follower. And his place, naturally, is taken by a woman.
Humiliation
Asking your lady for cash is humiliating for a man. First he earns, then he gives this money to his wife. And then he has to beg for “pocket money”, explaining himself as if he was 15 years old.
And sometimes I also have to account for what I have spent! This instantly kills the male principle in him, his inner strength disappears along with his EGO.
Infantilism
This role makes a man infantile. His job is to bring money. And what happens next, how to properly distribute finances, is not his concern. And the wife turns into his mother, who, in addition to all her other duties, also needs to make sure that the overgrown son does not spend too much.
The prosperity of lies
Obviously, no man wants to report to his woman. Especially in the material sense. What happens if she still makes you? The obedient spouse will obey, will give the salary, and then beg for his own needs.
And the other will simply begin to lie: hide part of the salary, give his wife less than he actually earned, say that the bonus was not given, and so on.
Conclusion
These reasons explain in detail why the wife should not take the money he earned from her husband. If he does not know how to properly dispose of them, he must learn. If you spent too much, you must be responsible for it yourself.
And when a wife asks for money from her husband, this is correct and there is no substitution of roles here. In this case, the husband feels like a patron, breadwinner and head of the family, which, of course, motivates him to achieve even more.
Who is in charge? The ideal option is when each family member has his own (feasible and voluntary) “piece” of power, that is, the area in which he feels needed, responsible, recognized and more competent.
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