Love gives us great strength, inspires us to great deeds. At the same time, there is no one weaker and more defenseless than lovers. So is it worth the risk of opening your heart? Author Kimberly Pavon talks about the strength and weakness of those who love.
Kimberly Pavon, writer, poet, her blog kimpavon.wordpress.com.
When a man says “I love you”, things get complicated. It would seem that, having heard these words, we should be happy, but instead we ask ourselves questions: what does this mean? does he mean the same thing as me? what kind of love does he have?
Someone says “I love you” without meaning it at all. He just wants to hear these words in response or considers it necessary to say them at the moment. And this is terribly unfair to those who believe in the sacredness of this phrase.
I’ve heard a lot of discussion about how love can take many forms. But from the experience of all my acquaintances, friends, including myself, I know that there is one quality that unites all who truly love – when we are in love, we weaken. Does this mean that weakness is always attached to love? Do we get weaker when we experience love?
They say that love gives us the strength to live, to fight, to wake up every day. Yes, it is, but also to love means to understand that you are weak. Because you know that there is always the possibility of losing someone you love.
How much do you need to love then?
Nothing is certain in life. That’s why you need to love as if at any moment you can lose everything
I know people who erected whole bastions and walls so that no one would destroy their world. In a relationship, they were always on the alert so that no one violated the boundaries of their universe. They told themselves not to lose their heads and were afraid to get too attached to someone.
It may sound silly, but I am sure that you need to love like you have never loved before.
Yes, you will be hurt. Thousand times. A million times Because the one you love will grow in your heart. And when you lose him, it will be the worst and most difficult time of your life. And for those who loved less than you, it will be much easier to survive the loss.
You already know that at any moment you can lose the one you love. That’s why you need to love him as much as you can before your paths part. Because our love is not always enough to convince him (or her) to stay. And one day you may wake up and find that a loved one has left you, leaving a bunch of unnecessary apologies and a wish “not to take everything to heart.”
Many argue: if he (or she) really loved (a) me, then why didn’t he (stay)? This is the wrong question. The right question should be: Did I love with all my heart? If the answer is yes, but it still went away, then you did your best, it just didn’t work. If the answer is no, perhaps you never loved this person, and one day he realized this?
You can’t love and protect yourself at the same time. If you want your loved one to stay by your side, you need to break down all your inner walls and allow him to be present in your universe.
I often hear people advising friends to be wise, especially when it comes to love. That you need to think with your head, not with your heart. Think about practicality, financial stability, about what good this relationship will give. But it is not at all wise to think of yourself. Foolish people, they think that love is something to think about. But if you think, then you don’t love. And deprive yourself of the ability to give. You deprive yourself of the opportunity to know the highest degree of generosity and self-giving.
You cannot be sure that your love will last a lifetime. Or that a loved one will always be there. Uncertainty is everywhere in our lives, whether it’s a calm lake ideal for sailing or a trail in the mountains. There is nothing in life that you can be sure of.
That is why we must love as if we could lose everything at any moment. To love like it’s our last breath.
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