Many psychologists and coaches argue that only those who have the ability to self-organize and tend to be systematic can become a leader. Is it really? Or can everyone become a leader? What qualities do you need to develop for this? Entrepreneur and business coach Veronika Agafonova answers these questions.
What is a leader? This is the one who makes his own choice and does not shift responsibility to others. Leaders are not born, they are made. So where do you start?
First of all, you need to realize that your past does not determine your future. Do not limit yourself to the folk wisdom “where you were born, it came in handy”: if you come from a family of workers, this does not mean at all that you will not be able to reach heights. A true leader knows that no matter what happened in the past, anything can be achieved.
Secondly, it is important to take responsibility for everything that happens in your life. It is a mistake to think that there are things that cannot be influenced, it is useless to blame the environment for your failure. Even if aggression is directed at the leader, he understands that it was his choice to be in this situation. He does not depend on circumstances, is able to stop aggression right now and not get into similar situations in the future. It is in his power to decide what attitude to accept, and what not.
Making lists of «what I need to be completely happy» is fine, but they should be addressed to you.
Thirdly, you should finally understand that your happiness is yours and only your task. No need to wait for others to fulfill your desires, as is often the case in family relationships. Making lists of «what I need to be completely happy» is fine, but they should be addressed to yourself, not to a spouse, relative or colleague. The leader makes wish lists and fulfills them on his own.
My first business was a music school. In it, I met many adults who suffered that in childhood they were not sent to learn to play this or that instrument, complained about it all their lives, but for a long time did nothing to fulfill their dreams. Leadership Position: It’s never too late to take the first step.
Leader lifestyle
The leader doesn’t think he knows everything. He constantly tries new things, learns, develops, expands his horizons and lets new people and fresh information into his life. The leader has teachers and mentors, but he does not blindly follow them, does not perceive their words as the ultimate truth.
It is possible and necessary to attend trainings, but it is definitely not worth elevating coaches to the rank of guru and not considering everything they say as absolute truth. Any person can make mistakes, and a method that is effective for one may not be like another at all.
The leader has an opinion on every issue, he listens to other people’s recommendations, but he makes the decision himself.
Talent and motivation
Do you need talent to be a leader? A real leader does not ask such a question: talent is something that is given to us by nature, and he is used to being at the helm of his life. The leader knows that motivation is more important, the ability to clearly understand what you want and act with full dedication to get it.
If a person fails to organize himself in order to achieve something in business or at work, then he simply does not have enough desire. Each of us can be organized in the business that he really needs. The phenomenon of leadership is about choosing priorities and creating order. And the main thing is to correctly realize yourself in this.
It remains only to fall in love with the state of uncertainty and risk, because without them development is impossible.
Many of us do not like chaos and unpredictability, many are afraid of the unknown. We are so arranged: the task of the brain is to protect us from everything new, that which is potentially capable of harming us. The leader rises to the challenge of chaos and unpredictability and boldly steps out of his comfort zone.
There is no exact scheme of how to become a millionaire tomorrow: business and investments are always a risk. You can earn, but you can lose everything. This is the main rule of the world of big money. Why is there money — even in love there is no guarantee. It remains only to fall in love with the state of uncertainty and risk, because without them development is impossible.
Organization of life and business
The leader does not go with the flow — he organizes his own life. He decides how much and when to work and creates value for his clients. He clearly sees the end goal — the result he wants to get — and finds people who can help achieve it. The leader is not afraid to surround himself with strong professionals, he is not afraid of competition, because he knows that the key to success is in a strong team. The leader is not obliged to understand all the nuances, he can find those to whom to entrust this.
The most difficult task is to take responsibility and organize your life in such a way that it leads to the intended result. Difficult but doable.