The perfect holiday: how to organize a celebration without unnecessary worries

A holiday for yourself

If we are talking about a personal holiday (your birthday, promotion, life-changing purchase), then you have the right to spend it the way you want. The main thing is that you don’t have to wait for someone to read your thoughts and make you happy with the perfect celebration. Take the fun into your own hands!

And here are some tips to help you organize everything and not fall from fatigue.

1. Only you know in what atmosphere you feel happy. If the best holiday for you is friendly gatherings in a warm country house, don’t book a sports quest just because it’s fashionable. Is your dream birthday a nightclub party? Invite your friends and have fun together to the fullest. The main mistake that often spoils the holiday is the desire to satisfy other people’s desires. Each of us has an active girlfriend or friend. And they are very convincing when they talk about bright entertainment, especially if they themselves dream of them. But if you don’t say “Stop!” to yourself, then you run the risk of finding yourself somewhere on a bungee, perplexed: “Why do I need all this?” A holiday should be a holiday primarily for you, and not for friends, boss or family.
2. Remember the phrase “cadres decide everything”? With personal holidays, the same story: if you want to sincerely celebrate an event, create a “comfort zone” with loved ones who will sincerely share your joy. Do not invite unpleasant, but “profitable” people – the boss, whom it is “inconvenient not to call”, a relative with whom you are at odds. And even more so, you should not “finish off” the number of invitees by random people if someone cannot come. Even though you have booked a restaurant for more guests, it is better to have a fun holiday than to be nervous that strangers will not be able to find common topics for conversation.
3. Never celebrate in debt. Yes, we live for the bright moments and pleasant memories. But it’s better to have fun in a pizzeria without cares than to pay for a pretentious restaurant and limousine rental for the next six months. People strive for conscious consumption, and the need to pay for wedding loans for years, when the newlyweds have already managed to get a divorce, is only bewildering. Show your imagination! Even with a limited budget, you can have a lot of fun.
4. Do not leave the decision of organizational issues to the last day. It will be a shame to lose a holiday just because you didn’t take care of tickets or reservations to the cinema, restaurant, theater in advance. Even if you are just going to go to the bars, you should read the reviews about the establishments in advance. But sometimes plans go awry: the plane leaves without you, the performance is cancelled, the taxi gets stuck in a traffic jam. Relax and let miracles happen. If something goes wrong, take it as an adventure. Perhaps it will launch a series of unexpected events and bring something new and interesting into your life. Feel like a heroine of a fairy tale who bravely overcomes obstacles with her friends. You will have something to remember!

Holiday for everyone

What about big family holidays? After all, we arrange them not only for ourselves, but also for relatives. And often a wife and mother are a cook, an administrator, a cleaning service and an animator all rolled into one.

How not to burn out while preparing for the celebration, not to run around trying to please the guests, but to have fun with everyone?

1. We need the right attitude and distribution of responsibilities. Delegate tasks to family members in advance. Let everyone be responsible for the scope of work that he can do, and then they, too, will be covered by a pleasant wave of anticipation of the holiday. During the celebration itself, do not hesitate to lead assistants: children can be entrusted with decorating the room and setting the table, men with arranging furniture and turning on music, sharing the worries about the menu with relatives so that everyone can have a feast together.
2. Lovely traditions will decorate the celebration. Let it be something small, easily repeatable in different circumstances. You can write comic poems or stories for each holiday or give each other symbolic gifts. If there are musicians in the family, give home concerts, sing karaoke. A collection of funny joint selfies can be replenished at each meeting. It is easy to connect new family members to such traditions, which will appear over time.
3. Let the festive menu include your favorite dishes that you can cook together, and then you won’t have to worry about how your guests will perceive your culinary improvisations. Cooking something that someone close to you like is a way to show him special attention, which means creating a warm atmosphere at the holiday.
4. Prepare yourself and your guests for the arrival of toxic relatives. We don’t choose them, and you can’t help but invite your mother-in-law to a family celebration, even if you have a strained relationship, or a grandmother who always teaches her grandchildren. Yes, you never know who from loved ones can behave toxic. It is unrealistic not to respond to them, but you can prepare yourself and your guests. Warn others that you have specific relatives and ask for understanding. Emphasize that no one in the family judges anyone, but respect each other’s features.
5. Think in advance of general topics for conversations so that communication is smooth, interesting, without awkward pauses and discussion of “forbidden” matters like politics, religion or health.

Holiday for two

When you and your husband are preparing a holiday for two, it is important to speak out loud your desires. How would you like to spend this day, what to fill it with?

1. Specify the details if they are important to you. If you just want to “spend a day together,” you might end up on a 20-kilometer ski trip or an overnight ice-fishing trip instead of the new restaurant or exhibition you’ve been dreaming of.
2. Do you and your partner or husband have different holiday preferences? Find a third solution that both will like. But keep in mind that this is not a “compromise”: it’s bad when what is happening is not fun for you, and your partner is not happy. Start preparing in advance: make a plan and share with your loved one the preparation for the event. Agree on areas of responsibility and say that if something does not work out, you will not be shy to tell each other about it – preferably, of course, not at the last moment.
3. Tell us about your completed items and your anticipation. Do not be shy, carefully specifying, monitor readiness and periodically remind you of the time remaining until the event. If both of you plunge into the euphoria of anticipation of the holiday, then the long-awaited day will be joyful and happy.