The mother of the girl, who was born without arms, answered the deputy Lebedev

Deputy Lebedev called the life of a girl who was born without arms disgusting: “Why should the child be deliberately condemned to suffer? Why give birth to such children? ” What’s this? Such a strange form of compassion? Advocating artificial selection? I wonder what Nick Vuychich would say about this …

In St. Petersburg, a disabled child was kicked out of an amusement park. Allegedly at the request of the parents of ordinary children …

In Sosnovoborsk, Krasnoyarsk Territory, a disabled child had to be sent to a kindergarten through the prosecutor’s office …

Petersburg again. First graders in a wheelchair are not allowed to attend school. An ordinary full-fledged child, just a broken leg …

A story two years ago, when a first-grader with diabetes was forced to hide in the toilet to inject insulin …

For each such news about the infringement of the rights of children with diagnoses – a flurry of comments. No more than a third of words of support. Most often from the parents of the same kids. Who also went through this series of insults and humiliations.

The rest of the statements in the spirit of “do not spoil our mood, stay at home”, “and if something happens, why should the staff of the park / school / kindergarten answer …”. And my favorite is “I had to drink less, then a normal child would be born.” With this pinnacle of light thoughts can only compete “themselves are to blame, if you give birth at 45, only a moron will succeed.”

I’m 33. I don’t drink. I do not smoke. I do not inject. She gave birth to a son at 27. I never hit him with his head. However.

Timofey is a special child. At first glance, no one will ever say this – ADHD, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, does not affect a person’s appearance. But it affects behavior in society.

– He that you have, does not he hear, or what? – disgustingly perplexed question of the employee of the water park.

– Well it should have been so spoiled! – That’s exactly your opinion, grandmother from the minibus, and I missed it. Especially at the moment of a child’s emotional tailspin. From which it is not so easy to deduce.

– Autistic people usually behave this way. – Thank you, dear fellow traveler on the plane, I will never forget your kindness. Even if you said this not to my eyes, but to your neighbor in the seat, you could hear it well.

I brought to the kindergarten three (!) Conclusions from different neurologists and one from a psychiatrist. In all three, there are assurances that my child is not dangerous to others and has the right (there is nowhere more humiliating, honestly) to be in ordinary society. Only after that they stopped hinting at me for transfer to a correctional kindergarten.

So I have every right to express my opinion now.

Yes, we, parents of children with special needs and disabilities, understand that we can interfere with your ordinary children, and we try to prevent this. Yes, we take responsibility for the behavior and safety of our children. Yes, we are ready, if necessary, to always be with them (my friend, who has an autono son, sat for six hours in the locker room of the kindergarten for six hours). No, we do not think that everyone around us owes us everything. But, of course, I would still like to have elementary respect.

Oh, you will probably tell me now a lot of examples when mothers of disabled children tried to behave like the center of the Universe. Sorry, but you came across a classic #yamy. And her behavior does not depend on the state of this foal.

Whose company would you choose? An uncontrollably furious, brutally aggressive “normal” child, whose actions are favorably viewed by parents, or a non-aggressive “special” child, albeit with an unusual appearance? I am for the second option.

We are talking about the need to cultivate tolerance in children. What kind of tolerance or compassion can we talk about if adults themselves are not shy in expressions?

Get away from this freak! Suddenly it will pounce. “

“They go with the disabled, it’s not normal to play”.

Here it is – the true face of our current society.

Ramps are cool. Government programs for integration, inclusion and other ways to create a “barrier-free environment” are great. Kryvenko, kossenko, but at least somehow moves from a dead center. But the main problem is not even in the lifts and curbs. And in our heads.

If something is not done about it right now, then our progress will turn into regression. And modern Russia will become ancient Sparta. The weak and the infirm – immediately into the abyss. Indeed, why waste energy, nerves and money on them.

But then we will never have a second Zinovy ​​Gerdt, whose leg, damaged in the war, was eight centimeters shorter after 11 operations.

There will be no second Stallone who suffered facial nerve damage at birth. The result is partial paralysis of the lower left side of the face and slurred speech.

There will be no Nick Vuychich – a model of the lust for life. And he, for a minute, had no arms or legs. But a beautiful wife, adorable children, published books, the opportunity to travel around the world and help other people.

There will be no Nobel laureate Stephen Hawking, who has been almost completely paralyzed since the age of 20 due to the development of an incurable form of atrophying sclerosis.

And of course no second Maresyev! Fly with dentures? What are you! It’s dangerous for everyone around you. And the fact that he is a hero – yes, you can still argue with that. And he shouldn’t have been allowed to attend meetings with children. His sight could hurt them!

You know, Aldous Huxley in Brave New World had just the kind of world that parents dream about, who hate children who are not like others. There, illness was considered something disgusting and obscene. And the word “mother” was a curse. At the sight of an accidentally cut hand, people frowned, as if they were shown a disgusting spider. Glass of water? Ha! Old people were taken to hospices, where they quickly died out, poisoned with drugs.

In the meantime … On the popular St. Petersburg Internet forum of mothers, the section about difficult children is called “Special children – they can.” And they can really live a fulfilling life. And to achieve a lot in this life. If you help them. And if you are not ready to help, then at least do not interfere.