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Hello readers of my blog! Every person during his life sometimes has difficult situations, the way out of which, due to circumstances, is difficult to find, and sometimes there are simply not enough internal resources to look for it. Therefore, I devoted today’s article to the question: «If life has come to a dead end, what should I do?».
Recommendations
1. If you admit that you are at a dead end, do not despair
Sometimes it takes time to understand the problem. After all, in order to know where to go, it is important to understand where I am coming from and where exactly I am right now, right? This is a very important process, and if you do not give yourself the opportunity to gain strength and look around, all the time scrolling through the current situation in your head and torturing yourself in search of solutions, you will simply waste your inner strength and reserves. So allow yourself to pause and just be. Sometimes it helps to switch to other tasks, then the output itself is found.
2. Change your attitude to the situation
After all, in fact, no matter how difficult it is, but every crisis and ambush that has arisen is such a very motivating way to go beyond the boundaries of your comfort in order to achieve changes in the quality of your life. Indeed, many accomplishments of great people occurred precisely after a long period of stagnation. It is important not to give up, but to understand that you are on the path of a breakthrough, when the accumulated energy nevertheless reaches its goal, and this “suspended” state will stop sooner or later.
Thanks to such difficulties, a person gains experience, his inner strength, maturity and awareness grow.
3.Responsibility
The support of loved ones is very important at such a moment, but we should not forget that only you are responsible for your life. Yes, you can get help with advice or even financial support, but don’t just expect help based on circumstances or other people. This is your life and only you decide how to live it, and only you make efforts to satisfy your at least basic needs.
4. Guilty
Sometimes we make a big mistake in that when we fail, we spend energy looking for the culprit. Instead, focus on the problem and think about how to get out of the situation. An impasse has occurred, and if you shift the blame to circumstances or other people, this will not help you move forward, but will only increase the temptation to do nothing about it.
5. Trials are a gift
Sometimes some tests are given to us so that we realize that the usual way of life no longer satisfies. The usual ways of building relationships no longer work, that we are moving forward, and we just need changes. In case of ignoring the need for personal growth, a person becomes static, “canned”, to the extent that he may lose the meaning of life.
If you have reached this state, I recommend reading my article «What is the meaning of human life and how to find it.»
6. Benefit
No matter how harsh it may sound now, but sometimes the feeling of helplessness and the impossibility of solving some problem is beneficial for us and necessary for some reason. Some get attention, others do not have to put much effort into providing comfortable living conditions, as the other shouldered this burden …
It happens in different ways, listen to yourself, if you are at an impasse for a long time, maybe you really need it now for some reason? And then, instead of looking for excuses, it will be important to find the courage to admit this to yourself.
reflection method
This method is good because it helps you find the answer within yourself about how to get out of the feeling of hopelessness. When it seems that we are moving in circles, day after day, being in the same state of anxiety and desire for change. To do this, choose a time and place where no one will disturb you, turn off the sound of your mobile phone and take a piece of paper with a pen.
Record all thoughts and responses
- Describe the problem or situation you are trying to resolve. Detailed every moment and nuance.
- Close your eyes and try to identify the feelings that have arisen. It can be: anger, disappointment, impotence, sadness, fear, guilt, shame, irritation, etc. One feeling can be clearly manifested, and sometimes many at the same time, tangled up like a ball.
- Now listen to the sensations of the body, in which place there is tension, perhaps even pain. It is likely that when you realize something, your head may begin to spin, or a lump in your throat may appear.
- Now describe the thoughts that arise. It doesn’t matter if it’s negative or positive, just write each one down. Sometimes the answer lies on the surface, so even the smallest detail matters.
- Connect your imagination and try to imagine the worst possible outcome of events. If your biggest fear does come true, then what will happen? Consider mentally all the options, what is terrible about them? Give shape to your fear, when not just something voluminous scares you, but when you look at it from different angles, it often happens that in fact there is nothing so terrible, and it is quite possible to cope with what you were initially very afraid of.
- And now, on the contrary, fantasize about what scenario would be the best option for you? What exactly do you want along with this feeling of impasse? Try to clearly and in detail imagine what you want, otherwise it sometimes happens, as with fear, when there is some general voluminous desire, but what it consists of is not clear, not specific at all.
- Explore the beliefs that come to your mind when you think about solving an existing problem. The ones that stop you from doing things. For example: “I am weak and I will not succeed”, “I will not be able to earn so much money” … and so on.
- And now, reformulate these beliefs into positive ones, which are called affirmations, you can read how to do it correctly in my article “How you can program yourself for success using the simplest methods of working on yourself.” And repeat them to yourself as often as possible, thus, over time, the subconscious mind will be programmed for a positive result, which will greatly simplify your every day.
Techniques that help recover resources to overcome challenges
1. Creativity
With the help of creativity, it is possible to release the accumulated and unconscious energy. Sometimes an ordinary drawing gives an answer to the most difficult question, because you know the saying: “everything ingenious is simple”? Therefore, take a sheet, pencils or paints, and try to portray your hopeless situation. It is not necessary to be able to draw beautifully, let it be just lines, spots, dots, whatever, but symbolizing your state. Let your hand move, do not control the accuracy and precision.
Then, when you feel that the drawing is ready, listen to yourself, what feelings do you have towards it? What thoughts come to mind? What do you want to do with it? Save, hang in a frame, or vice versa, tear, crush and burn? Do what you want, these manipulations will help you go a little beyond the usual view of the situation and free yourself from accumulated feelings.
2. Sports
Or vigorous exercise. When your body can release all the tension and you feel tired, your thoughts will become much clearer. Sometimes it’s important to just take a break and channel your energy in a different direction.
3. Engage in meditation
It will help you relax and hear your true desires, listen to yourself, allow yourself to just be in the moment. And if you make contact with yourself, it is likely that you will find the solution to the problem quite easily and unexpectedly. If you do not know the techniques of proper relaxation, you can familiarize yourself with them in the article «The easiest to learn and effective way to meditate.»
Conclusion
That’s all, dear readers of my blog! It was important for me to convey to you the idea that if you hit a dead end and feel like an insoluble situation, you should not despair. There is always a way out, you just need to be able to wait and look for a way out of it. Even if not immediately, but you will definitely get out, all people go through this, you are not alone in your experiences.
For example, you can read the article “Real stories of people who have achieved success through their work and perseverance”, and you will understand that it is quite possible to move forward from absolutely any troubles and crises, while achieving tremendous changes and achievements. Most importantly, believe in yourself! Don’t forget to subscribe to blog updates, there’s a lot more to come! See you soon.