The Key to a Happy Marriage: 5 Personal Traits

What is the secret of happy family unions? Hundreds of books have been written on this topic, a lot of research has been done, and yet everyone has to find the answer on their own. Some have a better chance of building his alliance than others, despite all the inevitable difficulties. These are those who have certain personality traits.

1. A responsibility. What does this word mean? Most people will immediately think of doing a good job or other duties, but this is too narrow a concept. I mean something else – the responsibility for maintaining the well-being in the relationship. And this means understanding that a person himself is 100% responsible for actions and their consequences, and also understands that he himself is responsible for his own happiness, and does not expect another to complete this task.

Let me show you this with a client example. Her husband got a job in another city. When he left, everything fell out of her hands. If he suddenly did not call in time, she became terribly angry and said that it poisoned her all day. She believed that she was unhappy because of his optionality, not realizing that her mental well-being was her responsibility.

2. Positivity. The ability of one partner to give a positive response to the other is priceless. I do not mean that he blindly admires him or has lost his criticality. The point is that he perceives any offer or request constructively, as a kind of task that needs to be thought about and found a solution, and does not say: “No! It can’t be! It will not work!” If you, in turn, focus on the positive aspects of your partner’s personality, it can completely change the way you look at marriage.

3. Acceptance. This quality enhances the feeling of security. It means that a person accepts differences and is calm about the fact that a partner sees things differently. He is ready for the fact that the partner will be honest with him, open, and listen with sympathy to bizarre ideas without rejecting him. Acceptance also implies a willingness to forgive, offer and listen to any suggestions to remedy the situation during a conflict and not dwell on one option.

A friend told the story of a friend who was worried that her husband paid too much attention to hobbies. To somehow remedy the situation, he invited her to a romantic dinner. But she did not agree: she only needed her husband to give up his hobby, she did not recognize any compromises. By ignoring his efforts, she squandered an opportunity to mend the relationship.

4. Caring. When a partner takes care of health, mood, state of mind, he makes a huge contribution to the development of relationships. He wants to help personal growth, he loves and supports us. Such partners will also be good parents.

5. Creativity. Climb the mountains, go at sunset on a yacht to the sea. Adventures undoubtedly bring a lot of joy, and it strengthens relationships. But the love of adventure can be interpreted more broadly, because marriage itself can be the best adventure in life.

A partner who loves adventure is open to new opportunities in different areas. He is not afraid to leave the comfort zone and open new horizons of family happiness. With him you can share the most secret feelings and thoughts, he is ready to surprise with exciting romantic deeds. Think about how much these character traits mean for the well-being of a life together.