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‘The island of temptations’: A psychologist analyzes the three most controversial couples
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The psychologist Lara Ferreiro reviews the keys to the personality of Diego and Lola, Marina and Jesús, and Manuel and Lucía, couples from ‘The island of temptations’
Oh, infidelities, how they interest us when they are foreign, and how they hurt when they are lived in our own flesh. But, that taste for the disaster of others, that need for gossip, makes us feel attracted to the lives of others, especially when they present it to us on a silver platter. It is the case of ‘The island of temptations’, a television program that bases its dynamics on the idea (well, and achievement) of infidelity.
Five couples are separated, and spend a few weeks surrounded by singles and singles who are there to “tempt” them. Fun is served, especially when there are couples as peculiar as those who right now “inhabit the island.” Lara Ferreiro, psychologist and contributor to the married dating website, Ashley Madison, analyze the profile of the three most striking couples from the last edition of the program: Diego and Lola, Marina and Jesús, and Manuel and Lucía.
Lucia and Manuel
«Manuel lives in the present and whatever arises. He has broken a record, since it is the first time that a contestant has cheated on his girlfriend with two different “temptresses” “, explains the expert. He goes on and explains that Manuel is “the peacock that wants to manage the corral.” «He prioritizes himself above all else. He does not care what damage he may be inflicting on his girlfriend Lucia and denotes very little maturity in her actions with phrases such as: “seeing that my images have not hurt, now I’m going to continue doing what I want,” analyzes Lara Ferreiro, adding that Manuel is an avoider of suffering and he does not have any kind of guilt or regret for his actions.
«Lucia is naive by nature, and has sunk psychologically since he found out about Manuel’s deceptions », the professional analyzes. He explains that Lucia has traits of emotional dependence, as well as does not know how to set limits and feels that she has lost three years of her life having been with him.
Lola and Diego
“Both are experts in entangling and causing controversy,” begins the expert. He explains that «Lola is an impulsive, fragile person, psychologically weaker than Diego. Also has a manipulative side and he is capable of lying to achieve his goals. He does not know how to face his problems and in the end they end up exploding in his face.
Diego, for his part, exposes the psychologist who puts all the weight of the responsibility of the relationship on Lola. «He justifies his actions as a reaction or consequence to what Lola has done. He looks like a victim of it, “he has forced me to cross the boundary”, a purely narcissistic and childish argument», Says the expert. Go on and explain that Diego’s ego gets fat when he sees Lola’s (momentary) regret.
“Both have crossed the limit of what is allowed. It is the typical couple who do not know how to communicate what they need, generating misunderstandings between them. The relationship was fragile Before entering, due to the childish nature of both and the future plans of having children, they were pure illusions based on an idealization of what it would represent for them to have children but without really knowing what it represents, ”says Lara Ferreiro.
Marina and Jesus
«Jesus is an insecure man and acts out of revenge. This avenging couple had been in a relationship for 5 years. Marina says she doesn’t recognize Jesus. She is realizing that not the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Marina was with him out of grief. She confesses that she felt self-conscious about him, ”says the expert.
He says that Marina wanted Jesus to continue disappointing him to reaffirm that he should not continue with him. For her to verify at each bonfire that Jesus is not worth it as a couple, it gives her peace of mind and justification to continue living her Caribbean passion with Isaac, one of the tempters.
«Marina is sincere with herself and what she feels for Isaac is real, there is an authentic complicity. While Jesus act more for revengeNot so much because he has real feelings towards temptresses, ”says the professional.