The husband is the head, the wife is the neck, or Power in a reasonable family

The main task of a woman in a family is to find a man who can and wants to become a worthy head of the family. Why is it so?

The woman is the natural owner of the family. First of all, a woman needs a family, she is interested in her and she understands relationships better than a man. The family is primarily a women’s project, but leadership is a difficult and responsible thing, and for this she needs a director: a leader who knows how to lead and is ready to take responsibility. And the task of a woman, as an owner, is to find a man who will be the head of the family, who will be able to perform the function of the head of the family.

The three main tasks of the head of the family are 1) to bear the burden of unpopular decisions, 2) to implement power decisions and 3) to keep order. That is, the husband, as the head of the family, takes upon himself the decisions that are difficult for his wife and which she asked him to take on. It also includes issues that cannot be resolved gently and kindly, where a forceful solution is required. In addition, a man is responsible for order: for the rules of the family and their observance.

The fact that a man also earns money is worthy, but it has nothing to do with the function of the head of the family: a woman in the family performs no less important functions.

And this is where it often fails. Of course, you want to find a man for the role of the head of the family — why not throw off responsibility in this way, but where can you find a worthy man for such a role if modern men cannot organize themselves? In addition, a woman often wants to steer herself, and plus, why on earth would a smart woman obey some man, even if she loves him? Love is love and life is life. Moreover, in many reasonable families, each member of the family is in charge of some area in which he is more inclined or better able to cope with it than others. For example, the wife keeps all the negotiations and the kitchen on herself, the husband earns money and monitors the general order. When everyone is busy with what they can and love, there is no need to talk about power in the family.

Everything is clear, everything is reasonable, but a vicious circle arises: if a woman is surrounded not by men, but by imperfections, she cannot trust them. But if a woman does not trust a man with the position of the head of the family, there will be no truly worthy man next to her: simply because worthy men will not agree to another place in the family. They respect themselves. Decision? To become a worthy woman herself, to surround herself with the best men — and gradually raise a completely decent man, making him a real head of the family. After that, you can enjoy life.

Now she has joy, happiness and order in her family. The wife is in charge of a good atmosphere and the husband, the husband plays the role of the Chief and, when necessary, the Terrible, they solve most issues together from the position of We, and the child learns to live from them and obeys them, who has learned to make even a cat obedient …

Here the wife is the leader, but the leader is hidden, the “gray cardinal”. It is the neck that gently governs the head, the husband.

When I tell this picture, the men nod their heads in agreement, and the eyes of the women cloud over with tears of a pipe dream. This is a really beautiful and happy family, but few people are ready for it. Men do not know how to lead, and women do not know how to obey. Unfortunately, few people taught us this, and the wisdom of life does not come to us by itself, or it comes too late.

The most difficult thing for a modern woman is to learn to obey, namely, to obey a man. If a girl did not obey her father, why on earth would she obey her peer, who had been courting her for a long time? He says, she objects. He is so, she is across. Conflicts arise in the family… Over time, if a woman is smart, she masters the Total Yes technique and is ready to trust him with many questions, but one of the points is traditionally a stumbling block. This question is a child.

Who is more important to a woman — a husband or a child? Who is first, who is second? In most Russian families, when a child is born, the woman gives almost 100% attention to the child, and, naturally, the husband fades into the background. It has become for us — naturally, we are used to it. How will be correct?

In fact, the situation is even more dramatic. A survey was conducted on Ekho Moskvy radio: how to choose between a person (husband, possible husband or loved one) and a pet, beloved cat or beloved dog. According to the results of the voting, if it is necessary to choose, only 28% will prefer a person, and 72% will choose an animal, their pet…

Women’s answer: “You need to correctly allocate your time and be sure to devote time to your husband so that he does not suffer. If not to the same extent as before the birth of the child, but at least just do not forget about it. Because the man fades into the background, he feels a little hurt … »

Dear women, do not attribute other people’s feelings to men: a man does not feel infringed and does not suffer, it’s something else. Situation: if an employee does not listen to the manager, the manager fires him. But not because he suffers and feels slighted, but because there must be order at work. So it is in the family: if the head of the family gives an order, it must be carried out.

Male answer: “The main person in the family is the husband. Nothing should happen in the family without the permission of the husband. And who, when a wife will appreciate more, is determined not by her, but by a man. If now a man says to his beloved wife: “Don’t take care of me, now the child is more important,” she should take care of the child. If the husband did not give such orders, the first attention is to the husband, and questions arise — consult. Everything else is a mistake.

Why is it worth taking, why does a woman need it? — Only in this case, she can expect that next to her will be a worthy and self-respecting man.

It is clear that respect for her husband is not a guarantee of family happiness. You need a lot more: to be attractive and interesting … See the article “Functions of Husband and Wife”

Children obey their parents, a soldier salutes the general, employees at work obey the leader, the leader in his financial activities is subordinate to the tax service … Knowing your place in a particular system is a moment of adequacy, unless of course you are going to be in this system. If a woman wants a worthy man next to her, she must create attractive conditions for him, and first of all, give him power. Men love these toys…

If a woman needs a man as an attachment to her child, what kind of man would be interested in such a woman? If a woman gives birth to a child and has fun with this wonderful toy, looking at her husband as the one who should provide her in this entertainment, only those men who do not respect themselves or cannot afford to choose will agree to such a role. On the other hand, if a man knows how ordinary women live, and sees that his wife is different, amazing, who for some reason respects her husband, then he will take care of her, will take care of her all his life, will be the best and most loving husband in the world. Because where would he find another one like that?